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I did the same thing. Been about 3 weeks and still did it last night. But in the beginning she said she wanted space and to work on herself. Then I raged at certain times and pushed her away to the point of no return. But honestly, had I given her space she was done anyway. I truly believe that. Or we would have came back and it would have started all over again. I learned about myself and my projections and wanted so badly to try them out with her. She didn't give me the chance. And I got so angry that I said alot of mean stuff. Which definitely painted me all black. Did I push her to paint me black? I played a part with my words. But would she have really come back? If she did she would have still had her resentments. And it would've poisoned us once again. So even if I changed, she wasn't going to. It would have been me doing all the work to make it better.

What did you say?

I'll be honest with you, begging any woman to take you back, whether they are disordered or not... .Or acting desperate... .Or raging... Or just being irrational in general, is not going to get you anywhere...

If this person wants space, DISORDERED OR NOT DISORDERED, you need to give them space...

You're just digging yourself a deeper grave each time you beg and plead for someone to take you back.

Well the first go around I had not texted her for a day. Night before I had asked if she wanted to get it dinner and it was "No. I'm studying for my class." So I put it aside and supported her because she was nervous about teaching the yoga class. Then the next day I said something like "It really does hurt me when I hope that someone I love might just reach out and ask how my day was." And she said something like "I told you I don't want to be in a relationship right now." And I saw red. I thought how could she say that and not even give me a reply with any emotions or feelings or care (now I know she wasn't capable. Only if it was providing her with something). So I called her evil, selfish, self-centered. Someone who only uses people for what she wants. And how she manipulates. Threatened to harm myself bla bla bla. Stuff I would never do or ever say to anyone.  That was when it turned from "I don't want to be in a relationship right now." to including me on an email the next day with our HR representative telling him we were no longer in a relationship. I went completely  nuts. I know why though. It was such a blow to my ego and for 15 months I was under the assumption she loved me like I loved her, and would be willing to try. That realization that, in the moment, I had wasted all my time and all the times I should have said that to her. All that inner anger came out. And that was really the end of our relationship. Actually like I said I knew she was done before that.

That's the truth. But if I had given her space we would've come back and she would have probably just did the same old stuff and I would have been more miserable and losing myself. She wasn't gonna work with me. So maybe I sped up the process.