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Title: Are we all just suffering from Stockholm Syndrome?
Post by: DearHusband on March 20, 2017, 12:24:51 AM
Stock·holm syn·drome
noun
feelings of trust or affection felt in certain cases of kidnapping or hostage-taking by a victim toward a captor.

Sometimes I feel like things aren't really as bad as they seem and that I'm being too sensitive. Sometimes I go back and read my journal and wonder what's wrong with me.


Title: Re: Are we all just suffering from Stockholm Syndrome?
Post by: Lalathegreat on March 20, 2017, 12:43:16 AM
AMEN!

Went to dinner with a friend I haven't seen in a few months this evening. I think I confided about HALF of what has gone on. Realized in the telling of it how really freaking insane it sounds/is. Felt myself wondering what she would have thought if I'd told her EVERYTHING.

*sigh*

Food for thought for sure... .


Title: Re: Are we all just suffering from Stockholm Syndrome?
Post by: Lucky Jim on March 20, 2017, 10:23:12 AM
Hey Linda, Sure, I suspect that I suffered from Stockholm Syndrome when married to my BPDxW.  Yes, things really are as bad as they seem, which is why it's important to have friends and family with whom you can communicate what is really going on, as Lala suggests, in order to gain perspective.  In my case, it was actually much worse than what I let on.  When I started to get stronger, I actually told my BPDxW, "Look, I'm not a prisoner here!"

LuckyJim


Title: Re: Are we all just suffering from Stockholm Syndrome?
Post by: badenergytroll on March 20, 2017, 10:44:35 AM
I suffer from a broken fantasy syndrome.

I really wanted to find someone normal, the last time.

Someone to be happy and settle down and grow old with.

Turned out to be the craziest yet. I couldn't have been further from my goal with her.


Title: Re: Are we all just suffering from Stockholm Syndrome?
Post by: Duped 1 on March 20, 2017, 11:47:31 AM
Lucky Jim-

When my exgf was pressuring me to marry quickly I said: "I don't want it to be like prison if you move in" LOL.

Badenergy- I could have written what you did. I thought we were going to be forever and her crazy abuse and irrational approach (and my responses to it) got worse and worse. It''s no way to live but I mourn losing the dream of who I though she was. Not the lying, immature, abusive person with zero integrity that she really is.



Title: Re: Are we all just suffering from Stockholm Syndrome?
Post by: Lucky Jim on March 20, 2017, 01:59:29 PM
Right, my marriage was like a case of mistaken identity.  I thought she was someone other than who she is.  Took me a long time to figure that out, though!  :)  LJ