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unBPDex made contact after a few months of not hearing from her.  I'm not really looking to get recycled but would like to remain cordial.  It is like they have a six sense and know exactly when to contact you out of the blue.

In brief: Started to date a new girl and she got depressed and shut down and stonewalled me out of the blue.  Not sure why they do this I think it is a defense mechanism?  Than after feeling down about this I get a message from the BPDex.

Also, how would you approach the BPDex just ignore?

Any help would be wonderful.

can you elaborate a bit on the nature of her contact? whatd she say?

"can you elaborate a bit on the nature of her contact? whatd she say?"

Just had a unexpected accident/crash that day and reached out to me... Than started making small talk with me... .

okay. so whats your goal? you want a friendship, or just to be cordial?

To be cordial.  I don't know if this is a pattern they use to recycle?  They get close with someone else than as they get too close they pull away and recycle the ex it seems.

a recycle takes two willing parties.

do you want to revive the relationship?

"do you want to revive the relationship?"

Not at this time.

okay. then her intentions are irrelevant as far as your actions are concerned.

a cordial response looks to me, something like "yikes, im so sorry to hear that! hope youre okay!"