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Title: I took one tiny step towards being able to cope with being replaced Post by: TNDad on March 26, 2017, 04:31:37 AM I have tried my hardest this past week while we are on our family vacation, that we had planned for three years, and that she had left we can a half before, to not contact her too much. It was really hard because I have so many things planned for us since vacation in terms of moving forward and starting new and just continuing a relationship.
I was actually able to stop texting her for about a day and a half until she text me out of the blue telling me to tell the kids that she hadn't called because she didn't want to upset them while they're on vacation. I don't know why she sent that text at 10 o'clock in the morning while we were at a theme park because her mom not being there at that point in time. Anyway, I began to text her again and stop but then last night I sent some pretty heartfelt things and all she cared about was money. She wanted money to buy the kids food at her new place with her fiancé. The kids live with me and she only watches them the time they get off the bus and the time I get home from work. I told her that I didn't Have the money to give her a nor was I can give her $450 to buy snacks for the kids at her house. I told her that her now fiancé and her should've thought about that before she cheated on me and moved out while we were still married. She continued on to try and provoke me to get angry but I refused. I told her this time last year, I wasn't going to spend a boatload of money to try and pressure and get her back, and I wasn't going to allow her back this time especially if I meant absolutely nothing to her after nine years of marriage because she found somebody that can save a couple of The right things to her. We are on our way back from vacation and my heart sank a little bit because I'm gonna see her again but I feel a little bit better because this time in the last. They both have secrets and they're both trying to call my bluff far as background checks etc. I don't know if this relationship will last or not at least I know that I've been replaced but it's no different than the last time it's not my fault. And actually texting her throughout the week and expressing how I felt about things helped me cope with the fact that there is nothing I could've done. I could have and perfect and this may still have happened. I still love her very much and I wish that by some miracle she would ask for my help and tell me she needs there but I know there's a less than .1% chance that Will ever happen. I'm glad I did all that though because now I can take one baby step forward and coping with the fact that I've been replaced and emotions towards me have just been turned off it is no different then before and probably no different the next time Title: Re: I took one tiny step towards being able to cope with being replaced Post by: infjEpic on March 26, 2017, 08:17:38 PM I have tried my hardest this past week while we are on our family vacation, that we had planned for three years, and that she had left we can a half before, to not contact her too much. It was really hard because I have so many things planned for us since vacation in terms of moving forward and starting new and just continuing a relationship. Sorry to hear about this TNDad The new relationship won't last. And as soon as it goes bad, she'll probably attempt to 'recycle' (exploit) you again. Don't be sure she won't ask for your help - just understand that she doesn't have any empathy for you - regardless of what she may say. Excerpt And actually texting her throughout the week and expressing how I felt about things helped me cope with the fact that there is nothing I could've done. I could have and perfect and this may still have happened. It would have happened - even if you had walked on water and raised the dead. It's not your fault. This article will help you to understand: https://bpdfamily.com/content/how-borderline-relationship-evolves What kind of support system do you have TNDad? |