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Title: BPD contact again... let her back in after 4 years? Post by: acknowledgement on March 27, 2017, 11:10:44 AM A 40 plus year friendship with a BPD ended with her silencing, stonewalling, berating, confronting, lies, manipulations and saying the friendship wasn't working for her anymore... .fast forward 4 years of no contact, she is trying to contact friends and family through their texts or social media saying "send a kiss" "give a hug" "I miss you more than you can know" (to me)... .she has not contacted me for years... .what is the meaning of this - is it just to validate that others have not forgotten her? To remove her guilt? Does she possibly mean anything by this or just another game BPD plays with push pull... .is it just another BPD do I still have power over them?
Title: Re: BPD contact again... let her back in after 4 years? Post by: once removed on March 27, 2017, 01:37:49 PM are you trying to salvage the relationship?
Title: Re: BPD contact again... let her back in after 4 years? Post by: acknowledgement on March 27, 2017, 02:01:30 PM She "deteached and discarded" the 40 year friendship... .I stayed no contact and have been very happy without her in my life. She has not contacted me directly, just sort of "through" others she knows will relay these messages to me. Just looking for some clarity as to possible intent with BPDs... .part of my heart felt something, yes... .is she just trying to push pull, see if I will reach out? She was extremely hurtful, manipulative, etc... .just looking for some guidance if anyone else has been in this situation after such a long time of no contact... .can a relationship even be salvaged after 4 years of no contact and such a hurtful revelation to her true persona?
Title: Re: BPD contact again... let her back in after 4 years? Post by: Aussie0zborn on March 29, 2017, 08:58:48 AM ... .such a hurtful revelation to her true persona? ^ Therein lies your answer. Someone once said that if you had "options", you would not give this a second thought, let alone letting your heart skip a beat over her. The trick is to create the options or to be so fulfilled that you wouldn't give her a second thought. What good do you think can come of this? Title: Re: BPD contact again... let her back in after 4 years? Post by: acknowledgement on March 29, 2017, 11:35:19 AM Wise words... .and ones I have lived by with peace and fulfillment for almost four years of NC... .I suppose wondering what "give her a kiss" "hugs from me" means from her end... .or doesn't mean... .I wish for no contact even back door contact through social media through others that I know... .I guess it just opened up old wounds?
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