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Hey guys,

So I have been dating this girl for 3 months, she is BPD (already diagnosed) and this past weekend I broke up with her.

I told her that I was extremely worried that she was not taking care of herself. In the last month, I had to take her to the ER because she had issues with her liver.

I have never in my past relationships dealt with such stress, going to the hospital worrying if she will be ok. This happened 2 months in. After the hospital visits, I told her that I want a few days to myself so that I can mentally be alright.

On top of this, there were massive mood swings and irresponsibility on her part.

She saw this as a huge negative thing and she brought it up during our break up. Was I wrong to want space because of the stress?

I told her during the breakup conversation that we should both take some time to work on ourselves. She said ok.

The next day I call her and tell her to let's try and give it another shot and then she tells me that she wants to separate for a while to work on ourselves.

This is what she said via text messaging: "I think that maybe we should go our separate ways and if we realize we're exactly what we want, we can try again. Like, work on yourself for a bit and I'll do the same. If it feels like we're right for each other then, then we can give it another shot."

Can anyone decode this?

I WANT HER BACK because I keep second guessing my decision of ending it with her.

I am on day 2 of No Contact.

What will happen next?

I am a wreck and would appreciate any guidance.

Thank you.

There's nothing to decode... .she's doing exactly what you said you wanted. I have to agree with her, if it feels right then you give it another shot. Give it some time. Maybe in a few more days the reasons you left in the first place will sink in. If the relationship causes you so much stress perhaps you're not right for each other.