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Title: Rough night... Post by: Lalathegreat on April 13, 2017, 08:57:37 PM An update for those playing along at home... .
One of the things I find myself struggling with the most in this relationship are the self destructive choices I make trying to cope. Last night that meant a bottle of Chardonnay and a night spent puking everything I'd eaten since 1984. Stupid, yes indeed. Stupid as an act - oh yes... .but made entirely more stupid because it gave pwBPD many things to focus on that had nothing to do with the original issues from last night. And exhausted and hungover I did not have the wherewithal to use the tools, and ended up in a 2 hour circular argument that only ended when (out of desperation) conceded to a bunch of his crap - the most damaging being that I selfishly put my needs above his own and behaved in a passive aggressive, manipulative manner. And since then things have improved somewhat. The day has been relatively smooth. Although I am a more aware than ever that my pwBPD is quite the elitist bully. We are in a small coastal town and he has made digs about the lack of culture, lack of decent dining and shopping, the intelligence of the general public, and a few choice words directed towards the overweight. 2 more days... . Title: Re: Rough night... Post by: formflier on April 13, 2017, 09:34:20 PM Can you put some thought to the choice to engage in a circular argument? I understand the lack of desire to use tools... .I've been there. We've all been there. In those instances, staying quiet is usually a good choice. Thoughts on how you made the choice to engage the argument? FF Title: Re: Rough night... Post by: Grey Kitty on April 14, 2017, 09:54:29 AM Can you go home early, either with him or without him?
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