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Title: husband with signs of BPD Post by: bear01 on May 09, 2017, 07:32:42 AM My husband shows signs of BPD... .I don't know what to do? Just got married in October 2016
Title: Re: husband with signs of BPD Post by: Springer on May 09, 2017, 08:51:28 AM I am long time in a BPD relationship and am just now trying the Yale communication process with my SO.
1. State the problem: "When dishes are overflowing the sink." 2. State what the problem does to you: "I feel frustrated, because I've been at work all day." 3. State why its a problem: "I am hungry and want to get right on to making dinner, but can't." Then wait for a reaction. 4. State what you will do: "I will have to eat a frozen dinner." Its like learning a new language for me. I want to go right into victim mode, then caretaker. This approach is helpful when I can pull it off. Title: Re: husband with signs of BPD Post by: Mutt on May 09, 2017, 09:40:57 PM Hi bear01,
*welcome* I'd like to join Springer and welcome you to bpdfamily. You're newlyweds. I'd like to echo Springer, there are different tools for different situations, PUVAS, DEARMAN, SET and validation. A pwBPD need a lot of validation because they have low self esteem, low self worth, self loath and self hate. What signs do you see in your H? |