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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD => Topic started by: TroubledTina on May 10, 2017, 04:04:58 PM



Title: My twin sister has BPD and I'm emotionally numb.
Post by: TroubledTina on May 10, 2017, 04:04:58 PM
I need advice.
My twin sister (31) has recently been diagnosed with BPD. I wish that we had known this years ago because now I'm at a place where I 100% have Compassion Fatigue and cannot provide the support needed for someone with BPD. She's definitely picked up that I've changed towards her and has avoided me. I feel so sad because now is the time she needs me most and I literally am numb emotionally towards her.
Has anyone ever gotten to this point? Have you overcome it?


Title: Re: My twin sister has BPD and I'm emotionally numb.
Post by: Turkish on May 11, 2017, 01:13:08 AM
Does it perhaps feel anticlimatic? It felt that way for me when my mother finally admitted to me that she was BPD.  I was validated,  yet also angry. 


Title: Re: My twin sister has BPD and I'm emotionally numb.
Post by: Charlie3236 on May 20, 2017, 11:05:55 AM
Hi TroubledTina!
I absolutely feel this way about my BPD little sis. She's caused so much pain and drama that I just can't feel the same way about her anymore. It's not that I don't love her, it's that she crossed the line one too many times with me, and now I'm completely emotionally shut down to her. And honestly I don't see it ever getting any better, short of her having a complete 180 degree turn around in behavior and attitude, and APOLOGIZING for what she's done to our family. Which is about as likely as the Rapture!
I feel for ya, sorry you are going through this too. Radical Acceptance has helped me a lot, and we have as little contact as possible now.
Hugs!