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Just had phone call with wife seperated for 2 months as she is trying to push divorce through quickly. I called her out and said I can guarantee you already seeing someone else... she blew up saying I am a weirdo how have I got access to her phone accounts etc... I said well technically its still adultery.
Now she will be smearing me that I am some kind of stalker... even though I just know she needs constant validation so it was obvious...
Feel a sense of closure but also aggrieved ahe is able to just move on while I am reeling in my own hell...

I'm sorry you are experiencing this. It might not be any solace at all but rest assured that she is not capable of feeling what you are feeling. If she did she'd probably have a psychotic break. And that is sad in a way. That she can't experience emotions which are ingrained in us as humans; for better or worse. Just remember that the worst is now over. And it might be solace one day to know that she is what she is. My first BPD ex did the same thing. Move on much quicker (2 weeks before we officially broke up). I know the feelings. They will pass. They always do.  

Save any evidence you have of adultery and do not get caught doing it yourself. You may be able to get divorced quickly depending on your states laws. I would do it as quickly as possible so that it doesn't drag on forever. It can costs tons of money. I am still dealing with my ex and lawyers for the past 2 1/2 years. If you have evidence of adultery you can get out of paying her alimony. You have tp be really careful now. She will be with someone quickly because they cannot be alone. Be careful and look out for yourself. Sorry you are going through this.

My xBPDw was with a new replacement one month after the filing, she broke up with him after a few months, then another replacement hung around for about three months then they broke up, then the latest new replacement "is such a wonderful person" and the X wanted me to meet him. He calls me one day to rescue the X from me evidently and I was as nice as possible and told him to never to call me again.

I was once so badly addicted to this BPD I have to say I was a bit nuts, now ever since NC or limited contact since we have three children together and I have full custody I can and want to live my life without her. I only want her to get married already or at least cohabitate so I can stop paying maintenance and I would then collect child support from her per the court orders.

pwBPD will go in and out of these r/s and after a while especially after you gain wise words from your fellow nons, you will be glad you were able to get out when you did. pwBPD are toast for life, your not, your free now.

But I can relate to those who are broken hearted. I know what a pwBPD can do to the spirit, mind and soul. I made it through the grieving  process, still hurts but I kept some great quotes from these wise people here that give me such great understanding to all the carnage pwBPD creates. Now there is a sense of peace and a strong sense and will to simply move on.