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Title: Relationship with a BPD female is ending Post by: m5068 on May 12, 2017, 01:02:26 PM I was jut informed yesterday (5-11-17) that she was moving out.
This is about our 6th breakup. I'm looking for this to be the last breakup , but she will be in my house for a least another couple of weeks. Whats the best way to handle this? Title: Re: Relationship with a BPD female is ending Post by: Lucky Jim on May 12, 2017, 02:37:12 PM Hey m5068, What makes you think your stbx has BPD? Assuming she does, I suggest you remain firm in your goal (parting ways) and decline to participate in the drama, which is bound to occur. LJ
Title: Re: Relationship with a BPD female is ending Post by: Mutt on May 12, 2017, 04:05:34 PM Hi m5068,
*welcome* I'd like to join Lucky Jim and welcome you to the family. I'm sorry to hear that, I can relate with breaking up with a pwBPD and living with her until she moved it. It was very tough. I'm glad that you decided to reach out for help. Excerpt I was jut informed yesterday (5-11-17) that she was moving out. It could be impulsive or it could be something that she planned without your knowledge. Can you walk us through it? Excerpt I'm looking for this to be the last breakup , but she will be in my house for a least another couple of weeks. Whats the best way to handle this? I'd like to echo Lucky Jim, make a firm decision and tell yourself that you're going to stick through it not matter what, I'd also suggest to reach out for as much help as possible, writing about it here and getting support from people that are going through this. You're not alone. I'd lessen the emotional attachment, and as LJ said don't engage her if she's trying to bait etc, negative attention is still attention, act boring / indifferent, share less. I'm looking forward to reading more of your posts. Hang in there. Title: Re: Relationship with a BPD female is ending Post by: Mavrik on May 12, 2017, 04:50:01 PM Avoid ALL intimacy
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