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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Idsrvt2 on May 24, 2017, 07:42:33 PM



Title: Why do they get a restraining order and still act out.,
Post by: Idsrvt2 on May 24, 2017, 07:42:33 PM
I've been stuck on a few things lately
And I know I won't get any solid answers but I'm sick of just sitting with this in my head.

My x as most know said he would like to go in peace and then filed the RO ... then in court wanted them dismissed... .

Walked in front of my car a month or so ago

And today did something rather odd to as I was coming in from my car... .stopped on my neighbors lawn same place he walked in front of my car,,,and took out his phone out and what appeared to be texting... .it was noticeable because he was basically right there ... in thebyears ive seen him he has never had his phone out. As they aren't allowed to text while working,,,... very odd behaviour for sure.
I was t doing anything wrong so I doubt he was taking a pic of me or anything like that,

Was it yo get my attention my gut says yes... .I don't believe in coincidence with him... .how an agoraphobic person stands on a cell phone texting in plain view at the same moment I'm coming out of my car... .

It of course got a reaction, but none he will know about... .

Tonight I've come to the conclusion I will just have to deal with this and ignore it as much as possible, 
Deal with the fact that he's trying to get attention because unlike a normal human he couldn't part on peaceful terms so we could still be friendly,

It's just perplexing if he wanted a RO so badly and to be left alone... .why on earth deliver around me and now stand on a neighbors lawn /driveway feet from me

Someone posted on another thread when they devalue us they actually fear us... .I believe that to be true , but with my x ... .I really think his family influenced this... .it just makes no sense at all.   A person so afraid of me is around me... ?   I wouldn't be standing near his truck texting.

I know no one has answers I'm just trying to work thru this
Missing him, hating him, resenting him all at once lately... .

I'm in a rough place at the moment ... .I will get out of it, but I so dislike being here, most likely he was texting my replacement ...