BPDFamily.com

Hey there!   I'm glad I found this place. My mom has BPD, and she married my father, who has Asperger's syndrome and Bipolar Disorder. Together they had two kids with severe Autism that never learned how to talk... .and ME! Somehow I only came out of that whole ordeal with anxiety and depression.  My childhood and teen years were awesome! (Sarcasm of course)
  
I was the greatest kid ever. I never did anything wrong and always did my best to please my mom. I got great grades, listened to all her ranting about how her family was never around to help her (and then would watch her push them away every time they did reach out) and how the whole world hated her, and I had the gift (or curse) of being able to internalize everything and staying quiet so that I didn't make her mad. Because she was so involved in my life, she scared away any friends I even made small attempts to reach out to, taking everything that they said personally. She was so controlling that I went to a college five minutes away, because she guilted me out of going "off to college." In my third year, I met a wonderful guy who I fell in love with. Long story short, my mom tried to scare him away, and I took off with him, and it was the best decision I ever made for my own independence.  
  
That guy that I took off with on that night seven years ago is now my husband. We've been married for almost three years and couldn't be happier. Unfortunately, I haven't seen my mother since I left that night, as she has refused my many attempts to meet. I have attempted many many times to communicate through email, but anything beyond small talk often disintegrates into nasty comments and accusations from her. I have not spoken to her through email in over two years.  
  
I'm glad to have joined this community. I look forward to hearing from others here who have loved one or friend who suffers from BPD.

I'm not sure I'm understanding how your mom is BPD.  To me she sounds extremely lonely, depressed, anxious, and full of frustration. It sounds like she's not aware of how her behavior affected you, but it doesn't sound manipulative or abusive. Just my thoughts... .

My apologies if my post sounded invaliding. I guess there's more to your story. 

I can relate to the title of your post!  My dad was an addict, my sis is uBPD, my bro schizo, and my mom is sweet but very emotionally detached and stubborn.  It's lonely being the only stable person in my family.  I suffer from guilt because I've worked hard to build a healthy, happy life for myself.  I have a great hub, beautiful kids, and a peaceful life, mainly because of a lot of thereapy, self-reflection, and keeping up strong boundaries to protect myself.  But goodness, I have chronic stress b/c of my family, always wondering when the sh!t will hit the fan.  You're not alone!