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Title: Just want other people's thoughts for a bit Post by: Emotions on June 09, 2017, 06:41:29 PM I texted my ex saying I'm just seeing if you have blocked me, cause my last message didn't go through, I am thinking of you and I hope you are well... .I got a reply saying I haven blocked you I am good and I hope you are well too... .this is basically an indifferent message. It didn't move me at all, but I did tear up when I saw it for some reason. However it seems as if there is nothing different in my situation, and I still have to realize that she is in a new relationship, and I still need to act as such. I don't want this to slow my progress down. Any advice on how to not worry or think of this as more than just an average indifferent response to my text?
Title: Re: Just want other people's thoughts for a bit Post by: Rayban on June 09, 2017, 07:14:28 PM Emotions
I'm not aware of what the dynamics of your relationship was, but indifference is just another major reason to move on. You've tried to reach out in good faith, but she's likely with some other poor soul. You could chase her, if that's what you want. Please be aware that once you'very been painted black , there is nothing that will bring you back to the honeymoon phase you crave. You just take this as another major reason to try to detach. Title: Re: Just want other people's thoughts for a bit Post by: Harley Quinn on June 09, 2017, 07:49:57 PM Hi Emotions,
It sounds like your feelings about the break up are still quite raw. What was it that motivated you to send her a text? That's the question I'd be asking myself. You mention accepting she is with someone new and feeling you should behave as such. If she is in a new relationship where do you see yourself fitting into that and taking that into account, what are you aiming for in the short/long term for yourself? I guess I'm asking if it is a recycle that you would want. Love and light x Title: Re: Just want other people's thoughts for a bit Post by: Mutt on June 09, 2017, 08:39:10 PM Hi Emotions,
I don't want this to slow my progress down. Any advice on how to not worry or think of this as more than just an average indifferent response to my text? There are times when anxiety gets the best of us, problems become blown out of proportion, while underestimating ourselves and our ability to cope with it. Is there something that you can do to change the tempo, go for a walk, go for a drive, go to the gym. What are your hobbies? What do are things that you can come up with? Title: Re: Just want other people's thoughts for a bit Post by: joeramabeme on June 11, 2017, 02:40:13 PM Hey Emotions
Mutt mentioned some good techniques. One other that has been written here quite a bit is to take a piece of paper and write out the top 5 or so reasons that your r/s did not work. I found that just after the breakup (and beyond) I romanticized all of our marriage. The truth is that there was a large part that did not work and made me unhappy. After it was over, I continually alternated memories of good and bad but fixated on the good - hence the exercise of writing out the top 5 reasons. Lastly, it takes time. The more time that goes by and that you post and read, you will eventually turn a corner and some of the FOG will lift. Best |