Title: Introduction Post by: KatharineH on June 12, 2017, 07:26:52 PM I am a daughter of a mother with undiagnosed BPD. My sister, and several of her children may too be sufferers.
I recently requested my mother end all future contact with me. I feel guilty, sad, and am hopeful I can find what I need in this group. Primarily a way to stop feeling guilty and establish healthy boundaries with others. I'd like to develop tools to stop care taking, but maintain my caring nature. I am grateful to have some place I can turn where others can understand how isolating and confusing it can be to deal with those struggling with BPD. Title: Re: Introduction Post by: Woolspinner2000 on June 13, 2017, 09:06:00 PM Hi KatharineH!
Welcome! Thank you for joining us and for making the first post to our C&H board. :) There are so many other members here who will be able to share from their own stories and hurts like yours. I am sorry for the pain you are currently experiencing. It is no fun at all, and you make an excellent observation when you mention that you feel sad and guilty. I know of many others of us who also experience those same feelings. You are not alone. Here is a link which might be helpful to you: Emotional Blackmail: Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG) (https://bpdfamily.com/content/emotional-blackmail-fear-obligation-and-guilt-fog) Have you considered seeing a T to help you on this journey? I am so thankful for mine. Healing from an uBPDm is a tough recovery but it is so possible, one step at a time! Wools Title: Re: Introduction Post by: Sarlen on June 13, 2017, 09:36:28 PM Hi KatherineH,
I am totally new to this but I am also the daughter of a mother with BPD. My mom called me in the middle of the night recently and forced me to make a decision on whether or not I wanted a relationship with her. I completely understand you wanting no future contact with her and I hope you know that you shouldn't feel guilty for your decision. I know how incredibly hard it is to be in that position and I believe that you are doing what you think is right and best for you and that is incredibly strong considering the circumstances. |