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Title: Problems on the Horizon EX BPD unblocked me on fb Post by: TsunamiWave on June 15, 2017, 06:09:56 AM So, after 2 months of absolute no contact my ex just unblocked me on facebook, i saw this because i went on the search tab and boom there she was, then, after seeing this i checked her social networks and i saw that she had deleted all the pictures with her new rebound boyfriend (who she cheated me with) but then posted a new picture with him, which means that they are definitely having problems. Their relationship has almost 2 months.
Is it safe to say that she might be in the devaluation phase? If so, why did she unblock me? She has also been posting a lot of suicidal stuff, which she does when she relationship shes in is not sailing right. Title: Re: Problems on the Horizon EX BPD unblocked me on fb Post by: insideoutside on June 15, 2017, 06:40:55 AM Who knows?
I blocked my friend on FB after we fell out; I did some security checks two weeks ago and noticed he was no longer on my blocked list but I hadn't unblocked him. When I looked him up he appeared. It seems he set up a new FB account with a different email address as his other one is blocked. He didn't reach out, neither did I and within 6 days he had disappeared again. I really cannot fathom the FB behaviour out; doubt I ever will. All I do know is these are games and to me it feels like they either want us to reach out to them or be able to see that we are still active on FB and have not disappeared completely. Good luck figuring it all out! :) Title: Re: Problems on the Horizon EX BPD unblocked me on fb Post by: HopinAndPrayin on June 15, 2017, 08:20:21 AM Is it safe to say that she might be in the devaluation phase? If so, why did she unblock me? If you focus on you, what do you want? If it is no contact, blocking her resolves this. If it is wanting more contact, how will you continue to heal from the damage done when you were in the relationship? Title: Re: Problems on the Horizon EX BPD unblocked me on fb Post by: TsunamiWave on June 15, 2017, 11:03:33 AM I dont really want contact but yeah after i saw she unblocked me i became curious about her motives. Im completely over her though but i cant block her because if i do she will see that i went to her profile on purpose, i never showed a single sign of being affected for the past 2 months
Title: Re: Problems on the Horizon EX BPD unblocked me on fb Post by: hopealways on June 15, 2017, 11:39:09 PM I dont really want contact but yeah after i saw she unblocked me i became curious about her motives. Im completely over her though but i cant block her because if i do she will see that i went to her profile on purpose, i never showed a single sign of being affected for the past 2 months Are you? Be careful because even wondering about her motives may mean you are not and could be triggered by her reaching out. Hang in there.Title: Re: Problems on the Horizon EX BPD unblocked me on fb Post by: TsunamiWave on June 25, 2017, 02:47:51 PM Its official.
Her rebound relationship is over. I truly hope she doesnt come back Title: Re: Problems on the Horizon EX BPD unblocked me on fb Post by: jhkbuzz on June 25, 2017, 02:52:27 PM I dont really want contact but yeah after i saw she unblocked me i became curious about her motives. Im completely over her though but i cant block her because if i do she will see that i went to her profile on purpose, i never showed a single sign of being affected for the past 2 months That's not true - FB "suggests" friends to me all the time, based on mutual friends, coworkers, etc. She could easily have "popped up" as a suggestion. If you really don't want to chance any further contact, go ahead and block her. Your only obligation is to yourself and your emotional well-being. |