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Title: When replacement gets ousted Post by: Roselily on June 24, 2017, 04:23:06 PM I'm struggling here BPD family, Just realised I was the replacement to a woman that is possibly UBPD/ Npd. I've read somewhere, replacements usually last 6m to one year. This started out with the usual idealisation to being very cruel. I'm shocked at this persons behavior, as I no recognise them as the one I met.
We both met right after coming out of bad relationships, with probable uSO BPD's. Both very vulnerable I understand, but comforting having someone who experienced the same. It was not a sexual relationship, but close friendship... .I thought would lasting.I soon began feeling the intensity and started pulling Back. Maybe this started the abandonment in her, but was the beginning of 6 mos Push-pull, hot cold, blaming over insignificant occupancies, twisting conversations anger eruptions, dismissive, lashing out, basically emotional abuse to the point it was not salvageable. I'm struggling again to feel balanced. Could this be normal behavior from a non, getting involved too soon, or could this be another BPD person that is in denial of their own behavior? Thank you for input Title: Re: When replacement gets ousted Post by: Lucky Jim on June 26, 2017, 11:16:49 AM Hey Aldactone, Hard to say if she had BPD and, in any event, we aren't professionals and can't diagnose anyone on these Boards. Are you saying that prior to your recent r/s, you were previously involved with a pwBPD? If so, that might not be as rare as one might think. Plenty of people on here have gone from one BPD r/s to another, from the frying pan into the fire, so-to-speak. Dating someone on the rebound, needless to say, raises numerous issues, particularly if you are both on the rebound. Perhaps you can think of your recent r/s as a stepping stone towards something more lasting?
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