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Title: Roman Catholic annulment
Post by: snowwhite on July 01, 2017, 07:21:12 AM
Has anyone here pursued an annulment of their marriage from the Catholic Church? How did it go? Did you need to detail the ex's mental illness? How did the ex respond?


Title: Re: Roman Catholic annulment
Post by: bus boy on July 02, 2017, 09:33:26 PM
I went to our priest to talk about the troubles I was experiencing early on in my marriage, he was not pleased that I did not share this with him before we married but he felt my marriage issues could be fixed with councelling and he was right if I was married to a normal rational person. I begged Xw to come to see the priest with me but she refused any kind of councelling and insisted that I was 1,000% in the wrong. Long story short, the priest was mortified at what I told him about my marriage and he said he would give me an annulment.


Title: Re: Roman Catholic annulment
Post by: Confusedpe on July 02, 2017, 10:55:26 PM
As a fellow Christian I might add the following

"through sickness and in health"

I believe that a mental illness = sickness = you wont get the annulment? Correct me if I wrong...

If the marriage is not consummated then an annulment is can be confirmed, however, once it has passed that stage, its divorce. Why does an annulment matter so much to you may i ask?


Title: Re: Roman Catholic annulment
Post by: HopinAndPrayin on July 03, 2017, 08:00:08 AM
Hi snow,

I researched this for myself as I too am Catholic.  There are a number of cases that apply to severe mental illness that address the person's capacity to enter into and maintain a commitment.  It's what keeps it from being considered "sickness" in the vows.  You don't need them to respond for the church to find for you and Pope Francis has made a number of moves to make it easier for annulments and allow people back into the community of the church in a way traditional divorce wouldn't have allowed for.

A Catholic annulment is not the same as a legal annulment.  You will likely need a legal divorce and then an annulment.  The cost I was quoted by my church for them to do their research and conduct a tribune was $3-5k.

-H&P


Title: Re: Roman Catholic annulment
Post by: HopinAndPrayin on July 03, 2017, 08:30:15 AM
Sorry for the double post.  Here's the post where I detailed the Roman Catholic annulment canon that addresses mental illness:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=310776.msg12877580#msg12877580