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Title: I just want to sleep...rage then silent treatment Post by: Letloverule on July 14, 2017, 01:00:04 AM here we go again.
today was a good day together. both of us have busy schedules and for me in particular, this entire month has been very busy at work. She has heard this. I have trouble sleeping well in general and last night I only had 2 hrs sleep followed by a very long day. SO was caring and even said "try to have an early night tonight to relax and catch up on lost sleep." I took some sleep aids tonight and started feeling deliciously sleepy. I was so ready to rest. We said goodnight and SO was going to unwind a little more before coming to bed. I hit my pillow and fall asleep instantly. Next thing I know, SO is in bed next to me and I feel her hand holding mine. I was not fully awake and I was drifting back to sleep knowing she's in bed. Suddenly she rips her hand away and storms out yelling in anger. I got so confused and walked out to ask. And she said in between her insults that she had wanted me to hold her, that she was feeling depressed, and that she was instead laying next to a corpse that she supposedly married. I am so taken aback because I have no memory of her saying anything. I try to apologize and validate and she's not having it. It took everything in me not to JADE and explain why I didn't hear her and that I was knocked out. She yelled that all she wanted was compassion... .she was so close to falling asleep. She threw her ring at me and is now on the front porch giving me the silent treatment. And now im here utterly exhausted and my body is screaming to go to sleep. but she's out there alone and depressed and livid at me. now I have to put my need for sleep to the side? I'm so fed up. Title: Re: I just want to sleep...rage then silent treatment Post by: starfox on July 14, 2017, 01:38:26 AM hugs. I do bot have any solid advice, but solidarity. It can be so frustrating when your SO gets upset at you for something you don't understand or for something based entirely in their own perception of reality that is still somehow also entirely your fault.
Title: Re: I just want to sleep...rage then silent treatment Post by: Gumiho on July 14, 2017, 02:07:28 AM I'd go outside and talk/apologize (yes of course it's not your fault), in similar situations sometimes just silently being next to my gf helped. Validate her, hug and carry her in again (no guarantee that works). But I'd give it a shot. |