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At some point with my ex, I've come to the realization that maybe I'm not just dealing with someone who is ambivalent about getting back together with me, but someone who has a distinct personality disorder.

For 6 months, my ex who got into a rebound shortly after we broke up, has not left me alone for more than a week, but pushes me away every time I get too close. We broke up because I wasn't ready to get engaged, and she thought I never would be. The process is this... I tell her to come back back to me but she refuses. I stop speaking to her for a week at most, before she comes back crying saying her boyfriend is no good and that she loves and misses me and wishes she could be with me. We sleep together, talk like we use to, talk about the future, and say we love you to each other. Then she tells me to just propose to her already. I say you have a boyfriend and if you leave him we can try again... really try. Yes, I'm a terrible person but I do love her. Things continue as normal for a few days before she stops talking to me completely and then abruptly blocks me. She'll message me a few days later and tell me it's over 100% and she can't do this anymore. This time it's 110% over apparently (her words.)

This has happened no less than 10 times in the past 6 months. I don't know why she'd continue to be with her boyfriend after all of this, but more importantly I don't know why I've put up with this. She deceives me every single time that she loves me and wants to marry me. If you loved someone you wouldn't treat them like this. I realized the only true resolution to this is for me to block her completely.

I hear what you are saying. I have been in a r/s with somebody for the past 5 years (we are both married) who behaves exactly like this. The difference is now, she isn't even professing undying love since I walked away over 4 months ago. She just simply wants to sit on my FB with no other contact. I find it excrutiatingly difficult not to tell her to F... .off.

I put up with it because I am always hoping for a reconciliation. However, I am running out of patience and am fast becoming of the mind that I would be better off without her in my life at all. It is difficult when you love somebody but you know the r/s is dysfunctional and causes you pain.