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Title: 3 years have passed Post by: SES on July 23, 2017, 10:06:16 AM Three years have now passed. Finally she signed the divorce papers, and these have been lodged at court. I am now just waiting for a judge to sign them. She is getting 16% of my pension, but nothing else. No maintenance. No child support payments (I managed to keep 50% custody). Her last false CPS allegations were closed in March... .following her and her boyfriend having to enter into a written agreement with CPS regarding their behaviour towards my kids and his alcohol use. She has been relatively quiet... as my legal bills are now minimal, compared to an average £1000 per month for the first 2 years. My friends report that I seem much happier. I have dated over the last couple of years... but have recently started dating someone I quite like. Which is probably a reflection of me being in a better place , as well as dating someone nice. (We have a mutual friend, a clinical psychologist, who assures me she has no BPD traits).
I have recommended BPD family to a few people I know. A friend recommended it to me, and we spoke about how powerful the support is from the members of BPD Family. It has been a while since I last logged in, which is probably a reflection that things are better. But I wanted to give an update... .and thank you for the support. Special thanks to ForeverDad and Livdnlearned. Without BPD Family, I am not sure where I might have ended up. This has been the worst experience in my life by miles. I cannot describe the pain, fear and cost. I am still recovering... .but to anyone going through this living nightmare, I hope you find the light at the end of the tunnel that I have found. Title: Re: 3 years have passed Post by: Panda39 on July 23, 2017, 02:02:35 PM Hi SES,
I am so happy to hear the outcome of your story, I know that you share children so the ex will still be around but you have gotten through the hellish worst of it and come out the other side. I wouldn't wish it on anyone but I think if we survive these experiences in life we are smarter and stronger for them. I'm thrilled to hear you've met someone new (and psychologist approved :) ). Wishing you well, Panda39 Title: Re: 3 years have passed Post by: SES on July 23, 2017, 02:24:06 PM Hi Panda39,
Nice to hear from you! Thanks for your support and encouragement over the past couple of years! Plenty of wise words. Yes, plenty more dramas to come... .but I am better prepared for it. I hope getting the divorce out of the way will help, as it's one less area of her exerting control over me. Plus, she has a 6months old baby with her boyfriend (affair partner)... .I'm hoping that a baby will keep her busy. Wishing you all the best. SES |