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Title: New to BPDFamily Post by: Bright_80 on July 26, 2017, 04:05:32 PM Hi! Just posting an initial introduction. My husband has BPD. I'm thankful he is aware of the diagnosis and has been through DBT twice, however that was a few years ago and we've both lost track of some of the skills that kept our home and relationship calm. We're both working on refreshing these skills and support is always helpful. I'm also working on overcoming codependency, as it also negatively impacts our relationship. We've been married 9 years and we're committed to a lasting relationship.
Title: Re: New to BPDFamily Post by: JoeBPD81 on July 27, 2017, 05:09:54 AM Hi there! *welcome*
I am thankful that you joined us. For me and for many of us, DBT is something we see they do in other countries but is somewhat utopical in ours. So I'm always interested in hearing about the experience. For what I read, the tools and skills are great, but they are not easy. Of course people lose track of them and get sucked by life and all its challenges. My GF's therapist doesn't aprove us reading and talking to other people with BPD, she feels we are overstepping in her work. But twice a month is not nearly enough to manage this. So we are advancing and improving more with that, our readings and sharing the journey of other people than with the actual therapy. I think all help is welcome and we, family members share hundreds of hours a month with the pwBPD, while the therapist spends only 2 hours, so I strongly believe that we have to learn something and be a part of the recovery path. I'm also co-dependent, and trying to work on that at the same time as I try to wheather the storms, and raise two kids. I hope you stick around and you share your journey with us, we will certainly understand the dificulties, and be glad to listen, and I'm sure we'll learn from it too. Take care. |