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Our 26 year old daughter who lives with us once again ended up in the ER after we went to spend a few hours in a nearby town. She seemed fine when we left, and didn't want to join us. She is deep into an eating disorder, which she has been in residential treatment centers for, but nothing seems to stick once she gets away from them. She was distraught because she ate food that she had forbidden herself to eat, and engaged in self harm (not new) and went to the ER after calling the suicide hot line. She is now in the short stay behavioral health center.

I don't know what will happen to her afterwards. Each time she returns from ED treatment somewhere (absolutely nothing available in our community, or within 100 miles) she struggles for a few months and goes into crisis mode again. They are terribly expensive, even with insurance, and don't seem to work for her. They might be the reason she is still alive, though. Overall, they do a good job and perform a necessary service. I would like her to go somewhere where there is a specific emphasis on BPD treatment. Maybe she would respond better to that?

She was diagnosed BPD while being treated for ED and exhibits each one of the qualifiers. She is so miserable and in need of help, yet won't take the medications because she doesn't feel she deserves to be happy. She often feels hatred for everything and everyone around her. Our hearts break because this isn't the happy, loving daughter we raised, and we grieve that she has become this sad, empty shell of who she once was.

Is there any way to get her back? Has anyone had experience with this just being a difficult passing phase of someone's life, and they really do return to what was normal before the BPD kicked in? Does anyone have recommendations about treatment places out west? We won't be able to leave her alone for even a short time without worrying about what might happen while we are gone unless she gets some serious help.