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Title: Fake facebook accounts? or im being paranoid? Post by: Xeonrebel on August 21, 2017, 11:48:35 AM Hi. I've been getting the silent treatment for almost 2 months, but i started my own strict NO contact for a week (that includes not seeing my ex gf facebook account and her possible new partner account). the thing is this. the last time we broke up for almost 5 months, when i started to truly detach i received 2 friend request on facebook, one that i think was a real person, but the other one only had 5 friends, one of them was my therapist. she even post a hello on my facebook, and then i blocked her. now after 3 months of horrible friendship she started another silent treatment after telling her that she was being abusive. anyway, honestly i started to play detective in order to find some answers (as she never said goodbye, that's it, its over, whatever) and saw that she's like giving a lot of likes to some dudes. anyway, after seing that i decided it was time to truly detach. for that matter i spoke to my ex gf mother for the last time, thanking her for her help (she tried to help me by talking to my ex gf with no results) and i told her that it was over for me (and really over because i asked for the engagement ring back so i can have the closure that she didnt give me (we had a long distance relationship)), i believe anything i say she also tells her to her daughter. the last thing i knew a week ago is that she still was single and she missed me one day but didnt want me back.
anyway, into the topic: like i said, the last time (march 2017) i started to detach, i received those 2 friends request. this time i began detachment (again) and on august 1st i got a notification about somebody tried to enter my FB account (like a mispelled password or something). last week i got a friend request, some girl supposly from germany, with lots of friend from the middle east and some friends from mexico (my country is mexico by the way). it seemed that the account was for sex dates and stuff (it had a URL to some sex-date site), just a single picture of a girl with big boobs and thats it. i ignore the request and 4 hours later the account was erased. today i received a friend request from some dude from africa, that had a lot of african friends and almost 10 friends (that i dont know) from my home city and one of the friends in common is my ex therapist. i ignore the request but didnt block. she blocked me from her main account since almost a year, i stalked her using a 2nd account that she knew, but she didnt block me, even that she knew i was stalking her on purpouse in order to get a response from her silent treament, but she only blocked me from the messanger system, not full block on facebook. i decided to deactive that account. i dont wanna go paranoid with this, honestly, but the weird thing for me is that during the 3 months of fake friendship i didnt get strange friends request. i just start to detach, she finds someone new, and the weird stuff starts to happen. i know that it may be just a really really weird coincidence. but, your thoughts? thanks. Title: Re: Fake facebook accounts? or im being paranoid? Post by: formflier on August 21, 2017, 06:47:07 PM You will never know... . A r/s with a pwBPD can easily get "nons" to "overthink" things. Much better to do your own FB thing. Accept friend requests from ... well... .friends. If you don't know them... .ignore it. Make sure you account is locked down so that only friends see stuff... FF Title: Re: Fake facebook accounts? or im being paranoid? Post by: Xeonrebel on August 31, 2017, 03:59:52 PM You are right. The problem is that we start overthinking and thats harsh. However, the problem i see is this. It's obvious that anybody in this forum can receive a Facebook solicitude to a porn site. The weird thing for me is that during the time we reengage (about 3 months of recycle) i didnt get any weird or strange facebook account. Now that im actually desengaging thanks to my therapist im receiving at least one solicitude once a week (this week i got 2).
I'm not sure how easy or hard its to make a Facebook account with Few porn pictures redirecting to some address with random persons from my city. Today the one i got had 5 other persons named like me (at least my first name). Anyway, thanks for reading me. Its hard to tell this to people that dont know anything of BPD. at least a girl friend told that indeed it's weird for her the Facebook things im seeing. By the way this is in the context of full silent treatment. |