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Title: 58 year-old daughter Post by: Valli on August 24, 2017, 02:51:57 PM I believe my 58-year-old daughter has BPD. No matter how loving and understanding I try to be, she rants and raves about how mean, selfish, and self-centered I am. After numerous hurtful e-mails from her, I looked up BPD and was convinced it fits her to a T.
I asked if she would be willing to talk with me about ways we might improve our relationship but she refused. So I responded: "If we can find a way to improve our communication, I will be happy to attend your Birthday party next week." She refused, so I did not attend which made her even angrier. I sent her a birthday card, "With love and blessings," and a note that I have a very special gift for her when things get better. She e-mailed me: "Thank you for the card." But no mention of the gift or getting together. I have written out my "5 Personal Limits" but am afraid to send them. I don't know where to start--I'm emotionally exhausted trying to cope. Title: Re: 58 year-old daughter Post by: wendydarling on August 24, 2017, 03:38:44 PM Hi Valli
Welcome to bpdfamily I'm sorry what your dealing with your daughter, I can understand you feel emotionally exhausted trying to cope. Many parents here are in similar situations, you are not alone. Do you think it may be helpful for you, to share your 5 personal limits with us? I'm glad you found us for support Valli. WDx |