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Title: She's being Nice? Post by: JaxDK on August 25, 2017, 02:39:08 PM So my exBPD girlfriends has changer her behavior lately. She's two months into her new relationship and moved in with the guy a few days ago. Yet this has been going on for two weeks. We usually just text when it comes to planning when and where to pick up my son, but lately she has started to call instead. Last call yesterday she started sharing about her house, her crazy ex husband etc. and why she had to move in with him. She has even started to add smiley in her texts.
Yet when I pick up my son she avoids looking at me or make eye contact. It seems like an emotional reaction. Has anybody experienced this sort of behaviour before? I seriously doubt it has anything to with an attempt to recycle or charming. She wouldn't risk a rejection plus she made a decision to move in with the guy This is out of pure curiosity nothing else Title: Re: She's being Nice? Post by: vanx on August 25, 2017, 02:54:41 PM I just want to relate to experiencing sort of hot and cold behavior from my ex. It can be pretty difficult to cope with. Everyone's different and this is just pure speculation, but I thought I would share. I know my ex would often feel she was "too much" and be deeply ashamed and somewhat shut down at times after she shared things about herself. I wonder if something similar is happening here--shame and regret for opening up? I could be totally wrong, but wanted to share in case there was any similarity.
Title: Re: She's being Nice? Post by: JaxDK on August 25, 2017, 03:12:29 PM I just want to relate to experiencing sort of hot and cold behavior from my ex. It can be pretty difficult to cope with. Everyone's different and this is just pure speculation, but I thought I would share. I know my ex would often feel she was "too much" and be deeply ashamed and somewhat shut down at times after she shared things about herself. I wonder if something similar is happening here--shame and regret for opening up? I could be totally wrong, but wanted to share in case there was any similarity. That's a good guess but I don't think that's it. She didn't tell me anything I didn't already knew except for the moving in part. She told me that because I now have to pick my son up at his place. I get an impression she wants more personal contact for reasons unknown Title: Re: She's being Nice? Post by: JaxDK on August 25, 2017, 04:43:21 PM I'm thinking it could be one of these reasons
1. She has emotionally moved on (Not likely if she's avoiding looking at me,as a way to avoid her emotions) 2. She's embarrassed about her previous behavior of trying to rub the relationship in my face to hurt me 3. Honeymoon period is over and she's starting to compare us. 4. She misses me 5. Rebounding backfired and didn't help her move on at all. 6. She thinks I'm seeing somebody, considering I lost weight and changed my entire wardrobe. 7. This is the calm before the storm. 8. Her ex husband is now the prosecutor in her triangulation and I'm painted white again. 9. She wants something from me. 10. It bothers her, I no longer care she's with somebody else. I've meet him twice now and been very cool about it. Even had a friendly conversation Something is definitely up. Her behavior since the breakup is out of the norm. |