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*rolling eyes*

When he's on NC I get these calls, got two yesterday so I just deleted GV.

I can't believe this, he's like a 12-year-old

SM makes it harder to unplug from someone but think I've pulled it off. He has no way to reach me now

I'm back on the dating site where we met and he either views my profile or sends me flirts from fake profile. I'm ignoring everything.

ho old is this man?

On second thought, I took down my profile , it's too hard to know who's who there. I could meet someone else like him or worse.

Sticking to people I meet at work, gym or when I'm out with friends.

Social media, friends, gym, are all ways people can meet to have good and not so good relationships. A lot depends on us. Many of us who end up in dysfunctional relationships have our own issues- poor boundaries, growing up in dysfunctional families, poor self esteem, addictions ( of any kind and co-dependency is one of them).

The ending of a relationship is tough, and a time of sadness and grief- even if the relationship was difficult. Most of the time, there is some good along with the bad. We can miss that. It's also a time of opportunity- to make personal changes and to do some personal work if we want something different than what we had.

It is said that jumping into a new relationship without resolving these feelings can be a set up to recreate similar issues with someone else.

Deleting your social media is a good way to get some respite from the interaction with this person. It's also a way to get some space for yourself. You made a good point- you don't know who is out there. There are probably a lot of people like your ex, but possibly also some nice people. These same people also may be hanging out at the gym, at work. If we are in a dysfunctional relationship, we have to consider what it is about us that attracted them to us as well.

NC can be tough, but also a time for reflection and some self care. So while you deleted your SM to get a break from him, it can also be for you- a quiet down time.