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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: BMD15 on September 09, 2017, 10:59:58 AM



Title: Telling someone you think he has BPD
Post by: BMD15 on September 09, 2017, 10:59:58 AM
I posted below about the threats from the person I've dated just a couple times. I had asked for NC while he was on vacation in Florida. He was supposed to come back today but with the hurricane, I wonder if he came back yesterday or is staying with family through it. My concern from him makes me want to reach out and see if he's okay but am scared that will make him think I want to progress, when I want to be removed from dating him. I'm a caretaker by nature so I want to see if he's okay. I don't want him to think I'm apathetic, but for a pwBPD, it may be the right idea?

Either way- we had planned to catch up on Monday. I'm on the fence about this- but if I do, with the goal of ending things (in public), what's the +/- of mentioning BP to him (maybe without saying ":)"? I think he has no idea, his friends and family have no idea- and while I don't know him that well (it's only been 2 months), he has mentioned self image and rejection issues (as well as persistence issues).