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Title: I don't get the point of her following and seeing everything I post Post by: alwaysloving on September 15, 2017, 02:15:14 AM I was just sitting here thinking... my exwBPD about 3 weeks ago was telling me she misses and loves me and the following week she said she was getting married... this was a relationship with me for 2 1/2 years and it ends just like that? IMHO I don't know anyone who can get married that quick without it being something long in the works... Might of been while she was going hard accusing me of cheating when she was the one doing the cheating...
But anyways I wanted to know just before the break up she started to delete all pictures of me on social media (she did forget one where she calls me the love of her life) After she did that she start following me on youtube... I'm I'm thinking like what's the point? She said she wanted to remain friends but she obvious blocked me from facebook so I can't see her relationship... I was close with her mom and another thing that seems "odd" is all the pictures of my ex and the new guy her mom does not click like on them but just her by herself she does which gives me the reason to think the mother does not really approve of it... But anyways I don't get the point of following and seeing everything I post It was bad on snapchat I ended up blocking her but unblocking her and adding her back but she never accepted it back which might be a good thing because all she would do is watch my videos and if I posted something she did not like she would say something smart about it. Title: Re: Why do they follow after they break up? Post by: Rayban on September 15, 2017, 06:37:19 AM Simple answer ... .because you let her. Blocking, unblocking is just playing games and giving her attention.
Step away from social media. It will keep you attached wondering what she's up to. Title: Re: I don't get the point of her following and seeing everything I post Post by: Mutt on September 15, 2017, 06:31:42 PM Hi alwaysloving,
I understand how confusing a pwBPD's behaviours are, we could speculate, we can't read someone else's mind. Rattan has a point, of self protect and self protection could also mean to deactivate your social media accounts and return when you're a little further down the line with healing. Title: Re: I don't get the point of her following and seeing everything I post Post by: Harley Quinn on September 15, 2017, 06:40:26 PM Hi alwaysloving,
Are you still monitoring her social media also? It seems to me like that isn't going to do much for your detaching (watching each other won't change the fact that she is married) and would agree with the other replies that it would be wise to refrain from doing this to yourself. Right now what I'd advise you turn your attention to is instead doing positive things for you. What do you do to care for alwaysloving at the moment? Are you making conscious efforts to self soothe and find enjoyment in life? Love and light x Title: Re: I don't get the point of her following and seeing everything I post Post by: alwaysloving on September 15, 2017, 08:54:18 PM I haven't checked her social media it's been a week now... .however at another support site (why I changed my name here) she made a few threads and she signs on daily to see if I've posted anything... and because I haven't she feels the need to search...
Now having said that because she added me on snapchat and she thought I was going to click on it (I did not) my friend told me she posted about this guy would always say he was going to marry her and she kept saying no (it's another lie) and she just gave in. How did we go dating for 2 years when this guy was in another country almost 2,000 miles away and you get married in a week? I'm guessing my NC is getting to her my friend invited me out tomorrow to hang with him and his fiancée I'm really happy to be out of the relationship with her... it was hell I'm not going to say it did not have it's good days but the bad days out number the good one's |