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Title: mentally tired and can't keep up Post by: Blanca on October 10, 2017, 10:08:58 AM My adult son has BPD & bipolar & i suspect a healthy dose of narcissistic disorder. I myself am bipolar with a tendency to shut down emotionally when overwhelmed. I raised him alone so we have developed an emotional intetpendence where each conversation is explosive. He has learned DBT skills & i see a therapist. nevertheless, when he cycles through his phobias, obsessions, & turns his emotions toward me, I don't know how to deal with the drama. I try to listen but too easily try to defend myself so he says I don't listen.
does this ring any bells? what do you do to deescalate the situation & still be supportive? How do you protect yourself? Title: Re: mentally tired and can't keep up Post by: Feeling Better on October 12, 2017, 11:30:07 AM Hi Blanca
Welcome to the site and yes, I have to say that I used to get sucked in and ended up trying to justify etc which I now know is called JADE. I wish I'd found this site sooner as my uBPD son had already moved away and gone n/c before I came across it. I can't offer you any advice unfortunately other than to read as much as you can and learn how to deal with your son as effectively as you can. Above all else, take care of yourself and your needs. One of your questions "how do you protect yourself?" Do you mean emotionally? You say that your son has learned DBT skills and you see a therapist. Did your son learn his skills with a therapist? Would it be an option for both of you to see a therapist together? |