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I know
I know your secret. I've seen behind your defenses.
I know. I understand.
I know the I HATE YOUs mean DON'T HATE ME.
I know the I'LL LEAVE YOUs mean NEVER LEAVE ME.
I know the I'M ANGRYs mean I'M SCARED to lose you.
I know the YOU CONTROL MEs mean I WANT TO KEEP YOU FOR MYSELF
I know you don't see GREY just BLACK and WHITE.
I know you can't see the GOOD and BAD in me together, only separately.
I know after WORSHIPPING ME you will be DEVALUATING ME.
I know you want to come CLOSE by walking AWAY.
I know the endless BLAME means endless INSECURITY.
I know the DO YOU WANT ME? means I WANT YOU!
I know that HANG UP, GO AWAY, LEAVE ME ALONE mean PLEASE STAY.
I know you feel FLAWED and ROTTEN inside in a way you can't explain.
I know it's that NEED inside you that makes you feel like nothing is enough.
I know you think I can feel it all but no-one can because the NEED is flawed.
I know you don't want anyone to know but I do.
I know that I am not a Saint but I am not the Devil either.
I know I can't fix you but I want to help you try.
I know now and I am at piece.
I'm free
I'm me
I sleep
I smile
I laugh
I play
I feel
I read
I write
I love.
I do.
I KNOW.

So how can you take the things that you know and begin using the tools and communication skills to begin improving your relationship?

Thank you BPD supporter. These are the words I needed my hwBPD to hear today so I sent them to him and let him know I didn't write the words but I mean them. He was very touched. No matter how much I try to let him know that although I can not say I know how he feels, I do understand why he feels the way he does... .he does not feel I get it.

Thank you for helping me show him I get it.

B.

Very well said BPD Supporter.

It reminds me of the concept of 'Opposite Day', but it is of course every day. I wish more people understood this sooner.