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Title: I want to know if walking away is best or if i should try and get her help Post by: t204 on November 03, 2017, 09:07:13 AM Hi, I have spent 2 weeks browsing for answers. My now (recent ex gf) im trying to figure out. We are 40 and she has a young son. We were together for 5 years and it was flushed in seconds. I love her and care about her a lot none the less.
She would flip from being happy to irritated in seconds with any trigger. I want to know if walking away is best or if i should try and get her help, I have mentioned it to her in the past and she told me shes fine i need counseling not her. Title: Re: ex girlfriend problems Post by: Tattered Heart on November 03, 2017, 09:30:51 AM HI t204,
Welcome *welcome*, I always think there is hope for a relationship with someone with BPD, but it takes a lot of work on your part in changing how you respond to her, looking at yourself and how you speak to her, and understanding your own boundaries. We have a lot of great lessons that can help on the right side of the page. |---> What led to the breakup? How long ago did you break up? Are you still speaking or in contact? One of the hard parts about being in a relationship with someone with BPD is that they do not see their need for T. And any attempts on your part to get them to see a counselor can alienate them from you and make them see you as the enemy. My H thinks I'm treating him like a problem to be fixed when I try to get him to get help. He has to come to that conclusion on his own. Title: Re: ex girlfriend problems Post by: t204 on November 03, 2017, 09:53:37 AM Hi, Thanks for the response. I posted the situation. Hoping to get some sort of clarity.
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