Title: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: truthbeknown on November 10, 2017, 09:05:05 AM I mentioned this on another post but i'm taking a survey to see how many people on here think this should be our Official BPD break-up song?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_ub7Etch2U Sam Smith: Too Good AT Goodbyes Also I watch this everytime i'm feeling down: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pketb6gxR3w (i'm not even religious but this is powerful!) Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Wolfsocks on November 10, 2017, 10:33:08 AM The song fits not for me personally but probably for many other people.
My breakup song is "Set Fire to the Rain": But there's a side to you That I never knew, never knew All the things you'd say They were never true, never true And the games you play You would always win, always win And "In the End" also works: In spite of the way you were mocking me Acting like I was part of your property Remembering all the times you fought with me I'm surprised it got so Things aren't the way they were before You wouldn't even recognize me anymore Not that you knew me back then But it all comes back to me in the end You kept everything inside And even though I tried, it all fell apart What it meant to me will eventually be a memory of a time when I tried so hard And got so far But in the end It doesn't even matter I had to fall To lose it all But in the end It doesn't even matter Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: truthbeknown on November 11, 2017, 07:09:40 AM I wonder if song writers who write break up songs dated BPD people?
those are good ones too. There are so many songs but Sam's just hit home for me because this has happened before and i guess i'm getting good at goodbyes even though I don't want to! Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: SummerStorm on November 11, 2017, 07:35:53 AM "The Night We Met" by Lord Huron - It's about reflecting on a bad relationship in general, not necessarily one with a pwBPD, but I think it works.
"Take me back to the night we met / And then I can tell myself / What the hell I'm supposed to do / And then I can tell myself/Not to ride along with you" I think that line reflects what many of us think: "I wish I knew now what I'd known then. I wish I could go back and tell myself, 'That's a red flag.  :)on't ignore it!'" "I had all and then most of you / Some and now none of you" I think this reflects the patterns of a BPD relationship, in that the pwBPD often mourns the end of the relationship before it's ended, leaving us to think, "But just yesterday, I was 'the one.' Now, he/she won't even talk to me." I think this also reflects the push/pull dynamic. After being split black or being devalued, the relationship may temporarily return to happy times, but we will never have "all of them" ever again, if we ever even truly had them begin with. "I don't know what I'm supposed to do / Haunted by the ghost of you / Oh, take me back to the night we met" And finally, I think this really reflects the "lost" feeling many of us have experienced or are experiencing. It also represents our conflicted feelings regarding what we should do next. We are haunted by both the good times and the bad times. We want to go back to when we met the person. For those of us who are just at the beginning of the healing process, we may want to go back and do things differently. We often think, "If I had known about BPD, maybe I could have made the relationship last." For those of us who are further along, the interpretation of this line is what I mentioned at the beginning of my post: We want to go back and tell our past self to get out of the relationship ASAP. Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: itgetsbetter94 on November 11, 2017, 07:47:14 AM Lana del Rey- Cruel world
Even in our idealisation phase, when we were driving in the car, listening to that song, I thought it was kind of about us. Female intuition... . Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: chillamom on November 11, 2017, 09:50:19 AM Another Linkin Park composition:"Waiting for the End"…"Waiting for the end to come, wishing I had strength to stand; this is not what I had planned; it's hard to let you go…"
Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: hope2727 on November 11, 2017, 10:06:16 AM There have been several through thus journey.
Currently I'm on "Every Little Thing" by Carley Pearce https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50R0-5gF6ig Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: FlyFish on November 11, 2017, 01:13:28 PM “Idiot Wind” - Bob Dylan
Many people upon hearing this think that it is an angry/hateful song. Although it has those elements I believe this song is written in pure agony. This song will always remind me of my relationship with my BPDex and my journey of healing, especially the elements of introspectiveness towards the end... .and many of Dylan songs have these themes. Dylan songs have helped me more than my therapist has over the last 2 years. He even uses the word “borderline” in the song. Ironic Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: chillamom on November 11, 2017, 03:41:28 PM Flyfish - YES! The last few stanzas when he sings "I've been double-crossed now for the very last time and now I'm finally free; I kiss goodbye the howling beast on the borderline that separated you from me…". Powerful stuff. Actually the whole "Blood on the Tracks" album is full of that kind of bitterness and pain. Very purging.
Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: limetaste on November 11, 2017, 06:40:10 PM The Smashing Pumpkins - Soma: https://youtu.be/60J6HlvfePM
"Wrapped my hurt in you And took my shelter in that pain The opiate of blame Is your broken heart, your heart" ":)idn't want to lose you once again Didn't want to be your friend Fulfilled a promise made of tin And crawled back to you" Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: truthbeknown on November 11, 2017, 11:57:07 PM After the no closure goodbye I remember listening to the Train song, "This ain't goodbye"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHdgN8t_EYw This ain't goodbye, it's not where our story ends but I know you can't be mine; not the way you've always been... . so many songs maybe some of us could write our own songs now? :) Also, there is the old James Ingram song "Just Once". https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcd3kN656zg I did my best, but i guess my best wasn't good enough, cause here we are back where we were before... . Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: limetaste on November 14, 2017, 06:04:37 PM Just listening to all this depressive songs I've came to a conclusion: The writer of them met a BPS-person and experienced splitting.
Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: truthbeknown on November 17, 2017, 07:54:51 AM Limetaste:
maybe it makes sense: artists are usually empathic people (until success corrupts some of them) and maybe some of their mates were just using them for their potential fame or fame etc. But I almost feel qualified to start writing some depressing break up songs. However, since there are so many out there it makes me passive and I lose motivation. on my last date with my ex we were singing "can't smile without you" by barry manilow. I guess it wasn't true for her Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Wolfsocks on November 27, 2017, 01:50:10 AM These two songs also remind me of BPD-relationships:
1. "Happy Together": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ZEURntrQOg It sounds so cheerful but has such a sinister note... .I think it's about someone who thinks they are in love with another person but they are acutally delusional, obsessed and have completely over the top expectations: I can't see me lovin' nobody but you For all my life When you're with me, baby the skies'll be blue For all my life Me and you and you and me No matter how they toss the dice, it had to be The only one for me is you, and you for me So happy together 2. "Kiss from a Rose": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w7y19ED6Vrk It sounds romantic and gentle but it's actually about addiction and dependence. Baby, to me, you're like a growing addiction that I can't deny Won't you tell me, is that healthy, baby? But did you know that when it snows My eyes become large and the light that you shine can be seen? Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: crunchtime on December 02, 2017, 05:11:19 PM Zevon delivers again:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZwze4qvc0g Why'd I let you get to me again And get me all confused Can't I ever get it through my head I'm only being used Why'd I let you get to me again Why'd I let you in Knowing you were only gonna nail me up again Making mad love, shadow love Random love and abandoned love Accidentally like a martyr The hurt gets worse and the heart gets harder Why'd I let you get to me again And treat me like a fool Sometimes I wonder if you're being deliberately cruel Can't I ever get it through my head And ain't it time I learned That the greedy just get greedier And the vulnerable get burned Making mad love, shadow love Random love and abandoned love Accidentally like a martyr The hurt gets worse and the heart gets harder Why'd I give you all the love I had To squander like you did My friends all shook their heads and sighed Such a naive kid My friends all shook their heads and wished I'd find somebody else And now I'm all alone and feeling sorry for myself Making mad love, shadow love Random love and abandoned love Accidentally like a martyr The hurt gets worse and the heart gets harder Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: DogMan75 on December 03, 2017, 01:40:46 PM In one of those moments where I was doing ok, I was at the gym and a Taylor Swift song (of all things) came on.
Knowing what little I do about Taylor Swift, coupled with a happy memory of singing it in the car with my ex and my my daughter, I teared up when she got to the hook. “Say you’ll see me again, even if it’s just pretend, in your wildest dreams.” Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: JWebb88 on December 14, 2017, 05:33:48 AM I actually have a playlist of songs for my breakup. Each of them are perfect examples of a volatile BPD relationship. If anyone is interested, here is my track list for BPD post break up pain. I'd say "enjoy," but that word doesn't exactly fit this situation. At the very least, may these songs also help others going through this emotional hellscape as well. Take care.
BPD Breakup Playlist: 1.) The National - This Is the Last Time Oh, when I lift you up You feel like a hundred times yourself I wish everybody knew What's so great about you Oh, but your love is such a swamp You don't think before you jump And I said I wouldn't get sucked in I This is the last time 2.) Florence + The Machine - Delilah Now I'm dancing with Delilah and her vision is mine (Holding on for your call) A different kind of danger in the daylight (I can never let go) Took anything to cut you, I can find (Holding on for your call) A different kind of a danger in the daylight (Can't you let me know?) 3.) The Kooks - Sway Say whatever you have to say, I'll stand by you. Do whatever you have to do, to get it out and not become a reactionary To hurt the ones you love you know you never meant to but you do Oh yeah you do Be whoever you have to be, I won't judge you Sing whatever you have to sing to get it out and not become a recluse about your house, come out I know you never meant to but you do Oh but you do 4.) Placebo - Every You Every Me Sucker love is known to swing Prone to cling and waste these things Pucker up for heavens sake There's never been so much at stake I serve my head up on a plate It's only comfort, calling late Cause there's nothing else to do Every me and every you 5.) Bon Iver - Skinny Love I told you to be patient I told you to be fine I told you to be balanced I told you to be kind Now all your love is wasted? Then who the hell was I? Now I'm breaking at the bridges And at the end of all your lines 6.) Florence + The Machine - What Kind Of Man To let me dangle at a cruel angle Oh, my feet don't touch the floor Sometimes you're half in and then you're half out But you never close the door What kind of man loves like this? What kind of man? What kind of man loves like this? What kind of man? You're a holy fool, all coloured blue Red feet upon the floor You do such damage, how do you manage? Trying to crawl in back for more And with one kiss You inspired a fire of devotion that lasts for twenty years What kind of man loves like this? 7.) Mumford & Sons - White Blank Page Can you lie next to her And give her your heart, your heart As well as your body And can you lie next to her And confess your love, your love As well as your folly And can you kneel before the king And say I'm clean, I'm clean Tell me now, where was my fault In loving you with my whole heart Oh tell me now, where was my fault In loving you with my whole heart A white blank page and a swelling rage, rage You did not think when you sent me to the brink, to the brink You desired my attention but denied my affections, my affections 8.) Modest Mouse - Black Cadillacs You were so true to yourself. You were true to no one else. Well I should put you in the ground. I've got the time, I got the hours, I got the days, I got the weeks. I could say to myself I've got the words but I can't speak. Well I was done, done, done With all the circ, circ, circlin' round. I didn't die and I ain't complainin'. I ain't blamin' you. I didn't know that the words you said to me Meant more to me than they ever could you? I didn't lie and I ain't sayin' I told the whole truth. I didn't know that this game we were playin' Even had a set of rules. 9.) Cold War Kids - Hang Me Up To Dry Now hang me up to dry You wrung me out Too, too, too many times Now hang me up to dry I'm pearly like the whites The whites of your eyes 10.) Chevelle - Closure Had to turn, And lay down, You're the sting of disease, Phase you out, Should've seen this coming, Go on, Confusing this soul, Hold my breath, Til you rupture! 11.) Breaking Benjamin - You Fight Me You fight me, flat on my lonely face I fell. Finding in the end I live well. In light of the life that I have found, It's coming down. I don't know what isn't real, But it's easy To beat me. (Suck it in) Life is sink or swim. Love is blinding, no surviving. 12.) Slipknot - Snuff Bury all your secrets in my skin Come away with innocence and leave me with my sins The air around me still feels like a cage And love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again So if you love me let me go And run away before I know My heart is just too dark to care I can't destroy what isn't there Deliver me into my fate If I'm alone I cannot hate I don't deserve to have you Ooh, my smile was taken long ago If I can change I hope I never know 13.) A Perfect Circle - 3 Libras Threw you the obvious and you flew with it on your back a name In your recollection down among a million same Difficult not to feel a little bit disappointed and passed over when I've looked right through to see you naked but oblivious and you don't see me But I threw you the obvious just to see If there's more behind the eyes of a fallen angel eyes of a tragedy Here I am expecting just a little bit too much From the wounded but I see through it all and see you 14.) Florence + The Machine - Make Up Your Mind Make up your mind Let me leave or let me love you While you've been saving your neck I've been breaking mine for ya' The power is on, the guillotine hums My back's to the wall - go on, let it fall Make up your mind Before I make it up for you 15.) White Town - Your Woman Just tell me what you've got to say to me I've been waiting for so long to hear the truth It comes as no surprise at all you see So cut the crap and tell me that we're through Now I know your heart, I know your mind You don't even know you're bein' unkind So much for all your highbrow Marxist ways Just use me up and then you walk away Boy, you can't play me that way 16.) Keane - Nothing In My Way A turning tide Lovers at a great divide Why d'you laugh When I know that you hurt inside? And why'd you say It's just another day, nothing in my way I don't wanna go, I don't wanna stay So there's nothing left to say And why'd you lie When you wanna die, when you hurt inside Don't know what you lie for anyway Now there's nothing left to say 17.) Jeff Buckley - Hallelujah Baby I've been here before I've seen this room and I've walked this floor (you know) I used to live alone before I knew you And I've seen your flag on the marble arch And love is not a victory march It's a cold and it's a broken Hallelujah 18.) Cold - Maroon 5 Cold enough to chill my bones It feels like I don't know you anymore I don't understand why you're so cold to me With every breath you breathe I see there's something going on I don't understand why you're so cold Are we taking time or a time out? I can't take the in between Asking me for space here in my house You know how to **** with me Acting like we're not together After everything that we've been through Sleeping up under the covers How am I so far away from you? 19.) Fleetwood Mac - Dreams Now here you go again, you say You want your freedom Well who am I to keep you down It's only right that you should Play the way you feel it But listen carefully to the sound Of your loneliness Like a heartbeat drives you mad In the stillness of remembering what you had And what you lost, and what you had, and what you lost Thunder only happens when it's raining Players only love you when they're playing Say women they will come and they will go When the rain washes you clean, you'll know, you'll know 20.) The National - Anyone's Ghost Didn't want to be your ghost Didn't want to be anyone's ghost Didn't want to be your ghost Didn't want to be anyone's ghost But I don't want anybody else I don't want anybody else You said I came close As anyone has come To live underwater For more than a month You said it was not inside my heart, it was You said it should tear a kid apart, it does 21.) Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Soft Shock Louder, lips speak louder Better, back together Still it's a shock, shock to your soft side Summer moon Catch your shut eyes in my room In your room In my room In your room Whats the time Whats the day Go and leave me Whats the time [Repeat x2] Whats the place Go and leave me 22.) Coldplay - A Rush Of Blood To The Head Honey, all the movements you're starting to make See me crumble and fall on my face And I know the mistakes that I made See it all disappear without a trace And they call as they beckon you on They say start as you mean to go on As you mean to go on, as you mean to go on So meet me by the bridge, meet me by the lane When am I gonna see that pretty face again Meet me on the road, meet me where I said Blame it all upon A rush of blood to the head 23.) New Radicals - I Don't Wanna Die Anymore Two months of fun Two years of pain Add it up And get a life of rain Need to scream But too ashamed It's gonna rain it's gonna rain You wanna go you wanna stay you wanna You really blew my world I wanna live and there's only one way I don't want to die anymore I want to live it up I don't want this high anymore But I can't give it up I won't live a lie anymore I need to give you up 24.) Eisley - Smarter And I apologize for not telling you that my halo was cut from paper Sliced from the fibers that made up all the parts that we were together Even though I miss you, I'm thankful Its obvious that this war was futile So put your hands together and clap for The painful choice you've made 'cause it's right I'm smarter than you I'm smarter than you think I'm smarter than you I'm smarter than you think You are the narcissist You're everything you saw in me (Into the sea you fell In love with the reflection of yourself) You are the narcissist You're everything you saw in me (I felt the ocean's grip I swam away to watch you drift) You failed to see I'm smarter than you think I'm smarter than you think 25.) Kari Kimmel - Nothing Left To Lose I gave my heart while it was beating And handed it over to you And it was so beautiful when it was needed Now it's all messed up and left in ruins Now everyday seems longer than the last And all the faces come and go But nothing heals the past Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: SlyQQ on December 15, 2017, 02:02:03 AM Taylor swift who might be BPD/npd and basically admits it
blank space really it should be the BPD anthem Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Roma on December 15, 2017, 05:37:08 AM It's sobering to realise that so much of the idea of romantic love, which ends up in songs probably derives from the kind of crazy behaviour that erupts in a relationship with one or other parties being BPD. My contribution is not a song, but I found it quite cathartic to read "Wuthering Heights" a few weeks ago in the aftermath of my breakup. Well I suppose Kate Bush did do a song of it, so maybe it counts. The wild drama of the main characters' emotions reflected for me a lot of the craziness I've been through.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BW3gKKiTvjs Actually on watching this again Kate Bush really nails it with her lyrics: Out on the wiley, windy moors We'd roll and fall in green You had a temper like my jealousy Too hot, too greedy How could you leave me When I needed to possess you? I hated you, I loved you, too Bad dreams in the night They told me I was going to lose the fight Leave behind my wuthering, wuthering Wuthering Heights Heathcliff, it's me, I'm Cathy I've come home, I'm so cold Let me in through your window Heathcliff, it's me, I'm Cathy I've come home, I'm so cold Let me in through your window Ooh, it gets dark, it gets lonely On the other side from you I pine a lot, I find the lot Falls through without you I'm coming back, love Cruel Heathcliff, my one dream My only master Too long I roam in the night I'm coming back to his side, to put it right I'm coming home to wuthering, wuthering Wuthering Heights Heathcliff, it's me, I'm Cathy I've come home, I'm so cold Let me in through your window Heathcliff, it's me, I'm Cathy I've come home, I'm so cold Let me in through your window Ooh, let me have it Let me grab your soul away Ooh, let me have it Let me grab your soul away Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: writeaway on December 15, 2017, 11:48:55 PM So I was listening to Pandora and Katy Perry’s HotNCold song came on, and basically sounds like it was written about a relationship with a pwBPD. Here’s a few excerpts from the lyrics:
Cause you're hot then you're cold You're yes then you're no You're in then you're out You're up then you're down You're wrong when it's right It's black and it's white We fight, we break up We kiss, we make up You, you don't really wanna stay, no You, but you don't really wanna go-o Someone call the doctor, got a case of a love bipolar Stuck on a roller coaster, can't get off this ride That’s not the whole song but you get the idea. Sound familiar? Right now, I also feel like I relate to Kelly Clarkson’s Already Gone. Here’s an excerpt: Remember all the things we wanted Now all our memories, they're haunted We were always meant to say goodbye Even without fists held high, yeah Never would have worked out right, yeah We were never meant for do or die I didn't want us to burn out I didn't come here to hurt you now I can't stop I want you to know That it doesn't matter Where we take this road Someone's gotta go And I want you to know You couldn't have loved me better But I want you to move on So I'm already gone Looking at you makes it harder But I know that you'll find another That doesn't always make you wanna cry Started with a perfect kiss Then we could feel the poison set in Perfect couldn't keep this love alive You know that I love you so I love you enough to let you go I want you to know That it doesn't matter Where we take this road Someone's gotta go And I want you to know You couldn't have loved me better But I want you to move on So I'm already gone I'm already gone I'm already gone You can't make it feel right When you know that it's wrong I'm already gone Already gone There's no moving on So I'm already gone Already gone Already gone Already gone Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: toomanydogs on December 16, 2017, 09:30:02 AM Wow. This is fun.
I'm horribly angry right now, but when I was grieving, I gravitated toward: Black Coffee: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7d9rRNbOijc Now that I'm angry, I gravitate to Cher, Lily Allen, Fleetwood Mac. Cher: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_eij6Vs7FGo Fleetwood Mac: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6Fdm3-dnr0 Lily Allen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6Fdm3-dnr0 and CeLo Green (The "F-word" figures prominently in this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6Fdm3-dnr0 Yeah, you can tell I'm angry. TMD Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: crushedagain on December 16, 2017, 10:06:10 AM "Misty Blue"
Oh, it's been such a long, long time Looks like I'd get you off my mind Oh, but I can't Just the thought of you Turns my whole world misty blue Oh honey, just the mention of your name Turns the flicker to a flame Listen to me good, baby I think of the things we used to do And my whole world turns misty blue Oooh baby, I should forget you Heaven knows I tried Baby, when I say that I'm glad we're through Deep in my heart I know I've lied I've lied, I've lied Oooh honey, it's been such a long, long time Looks like I'd get you off my mind But I can't Just the thought of you, my love My whole world turns misty blue Oooh, Oh, I can't, Oh , I can't Oh, I can't forget you My whole world turns misty blue Oooh, Oh, my love My whole world turns misty blue Baby, baby, baby, baby Baby, I can't forget you My whole world turns misty blue https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HNQlhCsGIpc Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: blueblue12 on December 18, 2017, 10:27:14 AM This set of lyrics/song fits into the BPD experience quite well:
VERSE 1 I'm sitting here flipping through Excuses for why I shouldn't call you Every muscle, every fibre, Every hair object to the very idea I just can't put my finger on However hard I try to slap away the halo around you Still it lingers and abruptly Without warning bitter memories appear When I think on it for long enough Of all the time we wasted on each other's love It's a wonder that I still believe the sun is coming up tomorrow BRIDGE/CHORUS What was once so fine, has been broken and burned So I wait here in the dark, for the light to return Blinded, I was blinded 'til I knew only the good love survives Blinded, 'til I understood how only the good love survives Only the good love survives But you and I were wasting time We were only wasting time VERSE 2 All those wringing hands And cheap ideas we could reason as failures But to run it through again Would only serve to do nobody no good So let the universe decide How we can loosen all the knots and tangled ways we came to And resolve to never speak of it again Oh love if only we could When I think on it for long enough Of all the time we wasted on each other's love It's a wonder that I still believe the sun is coming up tomorrow BRIDGE/CHORUS Link: https://youtu.be/VndwNThqolw Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Pencil sketch on December 18, 2017, 04:34:55 PM I have many songs, but the one, that describes my ex perfectly, is
Bruce Springsteen 'Secret Garden' Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: truthbeknown on January 06, 2018, 11:21:34 PM I keep hearing this song recently and I imagine my ex singing this because it seems so true:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ivt_N2Zcts Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: The.u.in.us on January 08, 2018, 03:07:15 AM I have one from every BPD relationship I've had funny thing is the pwBPD loved each song... little did I know it would become manifest destiny
Seether ... broken Maxwell... .Changed my mind Russ... losing control Sheryl crow... .if it makes you happy Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Kaboodle on January 10, 2018, 04:19:37 PM I have these on repeat:
Pink Please Don't Leave Phil Collins I Don't Care Anymore Eurythmics Thorn in My Side Adele Turning Tables Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: lostdorothy on January 13, 2018, 10:10:09 AM The song that gets me the most is Little Big Towns "Better Man". It is interesting because Taylor Swift wrote it. I swear she has been in a BPD relationship.
"And I see the permanent damage you did to me, Never again, I just wish that I could forget when it was magic" I can not listen to that song with out completely losing it. I mean sobbing and unable to breathe losing it. Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: blooming on January 14, 2018, 05:58:58 AM This is the last time - The National
Your love is killing me - Sharon van Etten Do you need my love - Weyes Blood I know - Sharon van Etten You know me well - Sharon van Etten (basically here whole 'Are We There' album actually) Sorrow - The National What is this thing called love - Editors The other side of Mt. Heart Attack - Liars Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: blooming on January 14, 2018, 06:02:20 AM The song that gets me the most is Little Big Towns "Better Man". It is interesting because Taylor Swift wrote it. I swear she has been in a BPD relationship. "And I see the permanent damage you did to me, Never again, I just wish that I could forget when it was magic" I can not listen to that song with out completely losing it. I mean sobbing and unable to breathe losing it. Wow those lyrics are crazily accurate! Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: araneina on January 14, 2018, 08:22:44 AM This isn't a breakup song and admittedly it was one of my FAVORITE songs as a teenage girl (hope this doesn't say anything about me), but I listened to it lately and was iike "Geez, if this isn't a BPD woman summarized up in a few lyrics."
My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult - Girl without a Planet She wakes up in the mornin’ with a zodiac smile Steps inside the body of a lost and lonely child Made up for the mirror With makeup like a whore A hurricane churns in her brain Little Miss No-Tomorrow She’s the girl without a planet A girl without a home She’s the girl without a planet An angel all alone There’s garbage in her veins and reptiles in her head Pretty poison nightmare with serpents in her bed After dusk her eyes glow For the tease of sex Play with bombs and things explode Little Miss No-Tomorrow It’s time to think it over It’s time you learn to heal It’s time you change the record Spin the wheel Girl without a planet She’s the girl without a planet Girl without a planet Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: JNChell on January 15, 2018, 01:13:54 PM John Prine-All The Best
I wish you love - and happiness I guess I wish - you all the best I wish you don't - do like I do And never fall in love with someone like you Cause if you fell - just like I did You'd probably walk around the block like a little kid But kids don't know - they can only guess How hard it is - to wish you happiness I guess that love - is like a Christmas card You decorate a tree - you throw it in the yard It decays and dies - and the snowmen melt Well, I once knew love - I knew how love felt Yeah I knew love - love knew me And when I walked - love walked with me And I got no hate - and I got no pride Well, I got so much love that I cannot hide Yeah, I got so much love that I cannot hide Say you drive a Chevy - say you drive a Ford Say you drive around the town 'till you just get bored Then you change you mind - for something else to do And your heart gets bored with your mind and it changes you Well it's a doggone shame - and it's an awful mess I wish you love - I wish you happiness I wish you love - I wish you happiness I guess I wish - you all the best Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Jami on January 15, 2018, 02:53:13 PM Mine has definitely been 'Black' by Pearl Jam. Not forcibly BPD-related, but oh! the drama and all that authentic sorrow in Vedder's beautiful voice... .
Sheets of empty canvas Untouched sheets of clay Were laid spread out before me As her body once did All five horizons Revolved around her soul As the earth to the sun Now the air I tasted and breathed Has taken a turn Oh and all I taught her was everything Oh I know she gave me all that she wore And now my bitter hands Chafe beneath the clouds Of what was everything Oh the pictures have All been washed in black Tattooed everything I take a walk outside I'm surrounded by Some kids at play I can feel their laughter So why do I sear Oh, and twisted thoughts that spin Round my head I'm spinning Oh, I'm spinning How quick the sun can, drop away And now my bitter hands Cradle broken glass Of what was everything All the pictures had All been washed in black Tattooed everything All the love gone bad Turned my world to black Tattooed all I see All that I am All I'll be Yeah I know someday you'll have a beautiful life I know you'll be a star In somebody else's sky But why Why Why can't it be Why can't it be mine Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: FlyFish on January 16, 2018, 10:18:10 PM Thanks for the John Prine song JNChell. Very fitting
I wish you don’t, do like I do. And never fall in love with someone like you. Brilliant Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: JNChell on January 17, 2018, 05:07:17 AM Sure thing FlyFish! I’ve been a big Prine fan for a long time. I have to say that this one didn’t really have any meaning to me until now.
Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Torched on January 17, 2018, 01:32:46 PM Well I’m so above you
And its plain to see But I came to love you Anyway So you tore my heart out And I don’t mind bleedin’ Any old time you keep me waitin’ Well Your mama kept you But your daddy left you And I should’a done you just the same But I came to love you And I want to flee Any old time you keep me waitin, waitin’ Black Keys “Lonely Boy” Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Husband321 on January 17, 2018, 06:00:33 PM Henry Rollins. Song "liar"
Big Sean. Song "I don't f with you" Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: crunchtime on January 20, 2018, 11:08:56 PM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zevdDowmgpM
"Bridges Burn" by Paul Otten Trained my mind on only one track Hit the ground running and never looked back Steered my eyes to the mission ahead And I burnt that bridge Never did listen to the innocent voice Dismissed my heart never gave it much choice Surrendered my soul to the mission ahead And I burnt that bridge Oh and I can't help But think I'm losing it Am I losing it? As I watch, I watch My bridges burn to ash Maybe my heart's trying to give me a hint Maybe it's time I start listening in Maybe I'm too far into the thick And I can't turn back Oh and I can't help But think I'm losing it Am I losing it? As I watch, I watch My bridges burn to ash Oh and I can't help But think I'm losing it Am I losing it? As I watch, I watch My bridges burn to ash All my bridges burn to ash All my bridges burn All my bridges burn All my bridges burn Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Jeffree on January 22, 2018, 11:03:38 AM This is still the one song that speaks to this the most for me:
The Outsider by A Perfect Circle Help me if you can It's just that this is Not the way I'm wired So could you please Help me understand why You've given in to all these Reckless dark desires you're Lying to yourself again Suicidal imbecile You're pounding on a fault line What'll it take to get it through to you precious Over this, why do you Wanna throw it away like this Such a mess, well I don't wanna watch you Disconnect and self destruct one Bullet at a time What's your rush now, everyone will have his day to die Medicated, drama queen Picture perfect, numb belligerence Narcissistic, drama queen, craving fame and all it's decadence Lying through your teeth again Suicidal imbecile You're pounding on a fault line What'll it take to get it through to you precious Over this, why do you wanna Throw it away like this Such a mess, well I don't wanna watch you Disconnect and self destruct one Bullet at a time What's your rush now, everyone will have his day to die They were right about you Lying to my face again Suicidal imbecile You're pounding on a fault line What'll it take to get it through to you precious Over this, why do you wanna Throw it away like this Such a mess, over this, over this Disconnect and self destruct One bullet at a time What's your hurry, everyone will have his day to die If you choose to pull the trigger, should your drama prove sincere Do it somewhere far away from here Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: blackmirror on January 23, 2018, 11:59:15 PM The Classic Crime-Ghost
A young man lacking sense Sells his soul to circumstance His movements indecise He does not know that it will cost his life She's a harlot Boisterous and rebellious Her husband gone this fathers daughter Leads the young man to the slaughter [Chorus] In shadows you sleep Too careless to see The things that matter most (ghost, ghost) So much that when you are faced with the truth You look like you've seen a ghost (ghost, ghost) A young man lacking sense Pushes on to consequence He lives to feed his flesh The scavengers will clean up what is left She's a harlot Simple and persuasive With seduction she always gets her way Her bed will be his early grave Chorus] In shadows you sleep Too careless to see The things that matter most (ghost, ghost) So much that when you are faced with the truth You look like you've seen a ghost (ghost, ghost) [Bridge] But I still know the shadows evidence the glow But I still know [Ending] Ghost (ghost) Ghost I'll only be your ghost I'll only get so close I'll only be your ghost (Ghost) In shadows we sleep (I'll only be your ghost) Too careless to see (I'll only get so close) When faced with the truth (I'll only be your ghost) Jimmy Eat World The World You Love" I got a story it's almost finished all i need is someone to tell it too maybe, that's you. our time is borrowed and spent to freely every minute i have needs to be made up but how? i'm looking for a nice way to say "i'm out." i want out. i fall asleep with my friends around me only place i know, i feel safe i'm gonna call this home the open road is still miles away Hey nothing serious we still have our fun oh we had it once Windows open and close that's just how it goes don't it feel like sunshine afterall the world we love forever, gone we're only just as happy as everyone else seems to think we are i'm in love with the ordinary i need a simple space and rest my head everything gets clear well i'm a little ashamed for asking but just a little helps it gets me straight again helps me get over it (over it) it might seem like a dream but it's real to me don't it feel like sunshine afterall the world we love forever, gone we're only just as happy as everyone else seems to think we are you should see the canals are freezing you should see me high you should just be here be with me here it doesn't seem theres hope for me i let you down but i won't give in now not for any amount don't it feel like sunshine afterall the world we love forever, gone we're only just as happy as everyone else seems to think we are Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Little known on January 26, 2018, 11:08:12 AM Yes, Better Man by Little Big Town. Every time I hear it!
Also, I Look So Good Without You by Jessie James. This is how I feel when I've gotten a break from him - a reminder that I can be a better version of myself without him: Boy I would have thought that, When you left me I'd be broken, With my confidence gone, So gone. Hey boy I would have thought that When you said that you don't want me I'd feel ugly as if something was wrong Standin' in front of the mirror My skin's never been clearer My smile's never been whiter I look so good without you Got me a new hair do Lookin' fresh and brand new Since you said that we were through Done with your lies Baby now my tears dry You can see my brown eyes Ever since you said goodbye Hey I never would have thought that When you left me I'd feel sexy and so good in my skin again And I never would have known that I'd be dreaming so much better Without you in my head Standin' in front of the mirror My clothes never fit better My laugh's never been louder Now baby my body's lookin' better than before Ain't biting my nails since you walked out of that door I realize now I deserve so much more Than what you give Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: MakingBelieve on January 26, 2018, 11:57:07 AM This song is so sad and haunting. To me it describes it to the point.
FAR FROM ME For you, dear, I was born For you I was raised up For you I’ve lived and for you I will die For you I am dying now You were my mad little lover In a world where everybody ___s everybody else over You who are so Far from me So far from me Way across some cold neurotic sea Far from me I would talk to you of all manner of things With a smile you would reply Then the sun would leave your pretty face And you’d retreat from the front of your eyes I keep hearing that you’re doing your best I hope your heart beats happy In your infant breast You are so far from me Far from me Far from me There is no knowledge but I know it There’s nothing to learn from that vacant voice That sails to me across the line From the ridiculous to the sublime It’s good to hear you’re doing so well But really can’t you find somebody else that you can ring and tell? Did you ever care for me? Were you ever there for me? So far from me You told me you’d stick by me Through the thick and through the thin Those were your very words My fair-weather friend You were my brave-hearted lover At the first taste of trouble went running back to mother So far from me Far from me Suspended in your bleak and fishless sea Far from me Far from me Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Wolfsocks on February 13, 2018, 04:27:31 AM I would like to add a song a bit on the humorous side: The Duck Song
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtN1YnoL46Q I know it's a children's song but I think the duck displays signs of delusion and disrespect. The man tending the lemonade stand tries to set boundaries but instead of following through (gluing the duck to a wall) he starts enabling the duck (buying grapes for it). Then he realizes that the duck continues to mess with him. The duck always wants the things it can't have and will continue to request impossible things from him. Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: JNChell on February 13, 2018, 06:28:21 AM Wolfsocks, my Son loves that song! This made me smile. I’ll also listen to it from this POV the next time he wants to watch it.
Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: blooming on February 13, 2018, 11:20:53 AM I think this new Kesha song (not someone I usually listen to but I found her Grammy's performance on YouTube) really suits breaking away form a BPD relationship too. It's very empowering!
Kesha - Praying Well, you almost had me fooled Told me that I was nothing without you Oh, but after everything you've done I can thank you for how strong I have become 'Cause you brought the flames and you put me through hell I had to learn how to fight for myself And we both know all the truth I could tell I'll just say this is "I wish you farewell" I hope you're somewhere prayin', prayin' I hope your soul is changin', changin' I hope you find your peace Falling on your knees, prayin' I'm proud of who I am No more monsters, I can breathe again And you said that I was done Well, you were wrong and now the best is yet to come 'Cause I can make it on my own, oh And I don't need you, I found a strength I've never known I'll bring thunder, I'll bring rain, oh When I'm finished, they won't even know your name You brought the flames and you put me through hell I had to learn how to fight for myself And we both know all the truth I could tell I'll just say this is "I wish you farewell" I hope you're somewhere prayin', prayin' I hope your soul is changin', changin' I hope you find your peace Falling on your knees, prayin' Ah sometimes, I pray for you at night, oh Someday, maybe you'll see the light Whoa oh oh oh, some say, in life, you're gonna get what you give But some things only God can forgive Yeah! (I hope you're somewhere prayin', prayin' I hope your soul is changin', changin' I hope you find your peace Falling on your knees, prayin' Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: RandomName on February 13, 2018, 01:32:22 PM The Finches, "Last Favor":
I feel I've done my last favor So I'll say goodbye Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye I know we both Have gone a long time being denied Instead of being favored Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye Please don't ever let me do you wrong And never do me wrong You know, I'd like to dream In dreams, in dreams We never say goodbye Goodbye, goodbye Goodbye, goodbye Once, I saw you on some corner I tried to say hello, hello Hello, hello I know it's been an awful long time And now it shows How time has made us older Hello, hello, hello You know, I never meant to do you wrong But life is not so long And so I'll cross the street I don't believe we ever said goodbye Goodbye, goodbye Goodbye, goodbye Goodbye ---------- Chris Isaak, "I Believe": I believe the stars keep shining all thought the night. I believe if we just keep trying it will be all right. I believe that someday we're gonna find our way. And I believe in a beautiful day. I believe in lovers walking side by side. I believe that someday we'll be satisfied. I believe the angels listen, god hears us pray. And I believe in a beautiful day. Yeah I believe it's gonna work out okay. But not for me, and not for you. I believe, I believe, I believe. I believe, I believe, I believe. I believe there's an answer waiting when the day is done. I believe if you just keep searching you'll find someone. I believe that you and I just lost our way. And I believe in a beautiful day. I still believe in a beautiful day. But not for me, and not for you. I know you tried, and I tried too. Sometime all our dreams just don't come true. I believe, I believe, I believe. I believe, I believe, I believe. Oh, oh, beautiful day Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: I_Am_The_Fire on February 13, 2018, 01:53:26 PM My list includes:
"I Am the Fire" by Halestorm (of course) Am I brave enough? Am I strong enough? To follow the desire That burns from within To push away my fear To stand where I'm afraid I am through with this 'Cause I am more than this I promise to myself Alone and no one else My flame is rising higher "Lift Me Up" by Five Finger Death Punch I've been thrown down, Run around Beaten 'til I hit the ground I'm telling you right now that it's over "Roar" by Katy Perry I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath Scared to rock the boat and make a mess So I sat quietly, agreed politely I guess that I forgot I had a choice I let you push me past the breaking point I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything You held me down, but I got up (hey!) Already brushing off the dust You hear my voice, your hear that sound Like thunder, gonna shake the ground You held me down, but I got up Get ready 'cause I had enough I see it all, I see it now I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter Dancing through the fire 'Cause I am a champion, and you're gonna hear me roar Louder, louder than a lion 'Cause I am a champion, and you're gonna hear me roar! "The Light" by Disturbed When you think all is forsaken Listen to me now (all is not forsaken) You need never feel broken again Sometimes darkness can show you the light "Stronger" by Through Fire I can't believe in you any longer (any longer) I am stronger I can't believe in you any longer (any longer) I am stronger, stronger than you Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: stixx44 on February 13, 2018, 08:24:30 PM Miranda Lambert Love Your Memory
LYRICS I don't want to see you or feel you I don't want to look into your eyes I don't want to touch you or miss you I just want to love your memory tonight I can't handle all this pain all we ever do is fight anyway Why we even tried I haven't a clue With hearts involved There's way too much to lose I don't want to see you or feel you I don't want to look into your eyes I don't want to touch you or miss you I just want to love your memory tonight You were something else to look at Your intentions they weren't all bad Tried to make me something I was'nt Lord knows there ain't no future In all that I don't want to see you or feel you I don't want to look into your eyes I don't want to touch you or miss you I just want to love your memory tonight Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Will2Power on March 10, 2018, 05:22:24 PM It’s not so much a breakup song, but it describes BPD/NPD. It may be triggering.
Liar by Rollins Band. https://youtu.be/awY1MRlMKMc Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Notgoneyet on March 10, 2018, 08:26:03 PM Wow thanks, TBK for starting this thread,
Very powerful feeling relating to a lot of these tunes. Crazy how so many of them fit so well with what I've dealt w & apparently many others on here. Safe to say for me music is one way I have survived the ups & downs w my SO. I have had more then a few Car Karaoke sessions on my way out to work or just cooling off after a blow up. Music has Always helped me through those times. 2 favorites - Sam's (Good at goodbye) Tyler Swifts (Better Man) by Little Big Town Title: Re: Official BPD break-up song? Post by: Learning2Thrive on March 10, 2018, 09:33:14 PM There have been many songs for me over the years since the breakup... .but these days I’m smiling and enjoying the heck out of this one:
https://youtu.be/A56p-ZSZ5Vc You Broke Up with Me Walker Hayes Well, I got some coke in my bourbon Surfin' the room like Swazye No, I ain't drunk, I'm amazing Yeah, I got that laid way way back back in my swagger Xfactor feeling no pain I'm at the top of my game Darlin' you can't crash my party with your 'Sorry's and 'What Are We's Don't start rainin' on my Mardi Gras parade for a minute I ain't even fixin' to listen to your guilt trippin' You're forgettin' girl you made your bed and didn't want me in it (Hey!) Woah girl, simmer on down a notch Ain't nobody making you watch me get my forget you on No girl, can't touch my good as gold I know it's difficult to see me on a roll But hey, you broke up with me Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me Guess you don't know what you want 'Til you see I'm movin' on Makin' lonely look like freedom Baby, don't even act like I'm doing something wrong If my song comes on and I get lost on that dance floor In somebody's arms that aren't yours You can't crash my party with your 'Sorry's and 'What Are We's Don't be rainin' on my Mardi Gras parade for a minute I ain't even fixin' to listen to your guilt trippin' You're forgettin' girl you made your bed and didn't want me in it (Hey!) Woah girl, simmer on down a notch Ain't nobody making you watch me get my forget you on No girl, can't touch my good as gold I know it's difficult to see me on a roll (Hey!) But hey, you broke up with me Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me For real babe, ain't tryin' rub it your face I'm just breakin off a little cold hard truth It is what it is girl, you did what you did girl I'm just doin' what a bachelor do Darlin' you can't crash my party with your 'Sorry's and 'What Are We's Don't be rainin' on my Mardi Gras parade for a minute (Quit it!) I ain't even fixin' to listen to your guilt trippin' You're forgettin' girl you made your bed and didn't want me in it (Hey!) Woah girl, simmer on down a notch Ain't nobody making you watch me get my forget you on No girl, can't touch my good as gold I know it's difficult to see me on a roll But hey, you broke up with me Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me You broke up with me Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me |