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Re-Posting my "introduction post" that I submitted yesterday because I'm not quite sure it made it to the correct thread.  Apologies if my assumption is incorrect and this is just creating clutter.  Happy Friday All!

"Three months have passed since the final discard and I'm struggling to keep her off my mind today.  Have made some real progress as of late but sometimes you just have "one of those days".  I'm sure a lot of you can relate.  Found this site while combing through a Google search and read a post from "rotiroti" which inspired me to join (thanks rotiroti). My story is like many others on here so will try to keep it brief... .

Dated my ex-GF for nearly 4 years and she was living at my house for about a year.  Although we had our rough patches, things couldn't have been better in my eyes.  We went to Wisconsin Dells the last weekend in July and had the time of our lives.  Felt closer to her emotionally, intimately, and physically than ever before.  The following weekend she took me to Medieval Times for a Bday present on Friday, threw me a surprise Bday party for me the following day (where 20 of my closest friends came, some I hadn't seen in months), and then went to Bday dinner with my parents (who have been friends with her parents for 20+ years) on Sunday.  Was literally in heaven... .  Until two days later, out of nowhere, she told me she was leaving.  She packed up and left without a care in the world.  Have since learned she was love bombing a guy since mid-June who she is now currently dating.

Not really looking for advice as I've come a long way since early August but it never hurts to have support.  Comforting to know there is a website dedicated to helping "victims" (I hate using that word) like myself.  Want others to know they aren't alone and it's "normal" to have days where you feel like you're taking a step backwards.  Remember to keep your head up and continue to care for YOURSELF.  Am more than happy to share some of the activities/coping mechanisms I've used to get through this.  Which reminds me... .  I'm off to the gym.  Thanks to all members on here taking time out of their day to assist others, especially "rotiroti".  I may have taken a step backwards today but a post you made stopped me from taking two!  Means the world buddy."

hi jman2430 and *welcome*

you do certainly sound like youve come a long way. four years is a long time (a year longer than me) and three months, comparatively, is not. i think that youre right when you say its "normal" to have days where you feel like youre taking a step backwards. but then again, id also say its normal to miss and to grieve an ex partner. and having the rug dragged from under you is a big hurt. im sorry that that happened to you, though i am glad you found us.

id certainly love to hear about your activities and coping mechanisms. i know when i was three months out there was no such thing  :)