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Title: Im having a lot of mixed emotions and signals from my ex Post by: t204 on November 14, 2017, 08:54:38 AM Hi, Im having a lot of mixed emotions and signals from my ex. Its starting to stress me out a lo. Any advice and knowledge is greatly appreciated. see my latest posts for clarity on the matter. it would be a lot to re-type.
My ex came back, we starting talking again and even spending time together. I was trying to just be more of a ear to talk and listen. Well we ended up sleeping together and now she calls saying that she feels confused and hurt. she says i came back (which is opposite) and that i need lessons in feelings? Our weekend together was great. she went as far as to ask me if i could take her son and her to see dogs etc. cause she plans on getting one. She made future plans for the following weekend that included me. a good night "hunny" text last night and this morning this? Im intensely confused now. Title: Re: Im having a lot of mixed emotions and signals from my ex Post by: once removed on November 15, 2017, 03:40:49 PM Im intensely confused now. this is, of course, much easier said than done, but two confused people make for more confusion. to some extent this is about letting her be confused, and not getting caught up in her confusion. just for one example, it could be the depression talking, and she could flip again by tomorrow. it could be as simple as things are moving fast, and there isnt a lot of trust. it could be both, though i mostly lean toward the latter. consistency and patience are needed. as usual, dont JADE, listen as you have, validate the valid and dont validate the invalid. these things will help build trust. |