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I sent my ex-friend an e-mail yesterday (Thanksgiving).  It just said "Happy Thanksgiving" in the subject, and that was it.  Early this morning, I woke up to find a reply from her.  It just said, "Same to you."  It actually caught me off guard because I figured she had also blocked my e-mail address, even though neither one of us really ever uses e-mail.   I sent a "thank you," and that was that.  At this point, I'm content to be in a place where we can be cordial with each other, and it has helped to give me some closure.  I really don't think I'll be hearing from her again, and I'm not going to press the issue and continue to e-mail her.   I feel at peace, knowing my holiday wishes did reach her and that they were not viewed in a negative manner. 

Nice work! Being the bigger person and acting with love is the way to go!

Thanks.  I'm definitely not painted white, but at least I know she's not slandering my name or anything like that, which makes me feel better.

I'm pleased for you SummerStorm.  It must be a big relief to know you can at least share well wishes without being ignored or receiving any backlash.

Love and light x

Yes, it is.  Also, I had written her a letter and planned on sending it to her in a Thanksgiving card, but I ultimately ended up deciding not to, and I do think I made the right choice.  I don't think it would have been received well, despite the positive tone of it.  The email I sent instead was short and to the point.  For too long, I've been letting my ex-friend's mother's perceptions and beliefs (she thinks that my ex-friend magically recovered from BPD just because she acted 'mature' the last time she saw her, two months ago) shape my own beliefs, and I can't do that anymore.   Her mother thought I should send a letter and thought that my ex-friend would suddenly see the truth and emotion in my words and decide to be friends with me again, but I think it would have had the opposite effect.