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Hi,

New here, first post.  I just learned about BPD after reading "Walking on Eggshells," which also led me to this site.  The book was recommended to me by a therapist.  I'm co-parenting with someone who behaves in ways I don't (or at least didn't) understand and I'm trying to wrap my head around all the reality-defying things that have occurred over the past several years.  I've been on the receiving end of ongoing verbal abuse, smear campaigns, false accusations of violence, paranoia, had my parenting time directly interfered with and, most recently, an emergency petition attempting to restrict my parenting time to supervised visitation.  Ugh.  The petition was ultimately dismissed "with prejudice" but now I'm left in a weird spot because I know it's not over.  The behavior isn't going to change and I don't really know how to effectively protect myself short of legal action, what my options are, or how to ensure my daughter isn't affected by all this.

Mostly looking to meet others who are in (or have been in) similar circumstances so I can learn and gain insight.

Welcome! There are a lot of tools and resources here that might be applicable to your situation, as well as many of us who are also co-parenting with a person with BPD or BPD traits.

What kind of challenges are you dealing with now that you'd like help addressing?

Please browse on our Book Reviews and Article Reviews boards.  There are so many excellent resources described there, too many to list here.  A couple basic books are Divorce Poison by Richard Warshak and Boundaries by Henry Cloud.  If you think you will end up in court or face abuse allegations — as has already happened! — then you definitely need to protect yourself legally by reading Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder by William Eddy & Randi Kreger.