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I thought with enough love, time, patience and modeling of behavior I could fix everything. However, I didn't know what everything really was. We took this special son into our home as a late teen. We had already adopted 2 children as infants. So how different could it be, right? I knew something was different from the beginning and had enough glimpses of his childhood to know there was trauma. But I underestimated it all. For the past 7 yrs it's been nearly constant struggles. Raging anger, it doesn't matter what I do it's wrong. He is verbally abusive and always always angry. I'm an educated professional nurse use to carrying for people, fixing things. Everything is twisted so I'm at fault, that I even began believing it. I realized I was loosing myself and started counseling. I've read the book Stop Walking on Eggshells, actually 3 times, just to make sure I haven't missed something. He doesn't think there is anything wrong with his behavior "it's the way I've always been, take it or leave it".  I've refused to leave because I made him a promise to always be there, because everyone else in his life as left. But he doesn't want me part of his life and has walked away. The first time I read the book I cried through the first 5 or 6 chapters. I thought "how did they write this book, they didn't interview me, but it's our life, all of it".

Hi Patrice,

I just started reading the book myself.  I presently am dealing with an adult daughter who has just recently been diagnosed.  She has been through several therapists who thought she had anxiety/depression and a bad childhood.  It turns out she is DPD and made up her whole childhood in her head.  She finally is with a therapist and on meds but we have years of damage.  When I read the book I felt so bad that I didnt see this sooner.  All the years I have been blamed, put down and it has been all about her.  How wonderful that you have accepted this young man into your lives!  What a blessing you have gave him and he doesnt know it.  I hope he finds the right kind of help.  It is hard I know it.  All my hopes as a family have been destroyed but I am determined to understand it and fight back.  It is a long journey.