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Title: i really do believe my ex has BPD now.
Post by: TonettaTheGreat on December 17, 2017, 10:05:23 AM
She began dating my replacement 2 DAYS after we split up. Ha. My god.

Is this normal?


Title: Re: i really do believe my ex has BPD now.
Post by: Shoct on December 17, 2017, 11:32:39 AM
hi TonettaTheGreat,

that sucks, i am sorry.

do you know if she was dating anyone when you first met her? And did the relationship go from 0-100 in a blink of an eye?

I was lucky enough to be told by me exBPD that she was diagnosed with the condition, i was just too lazy at the time to actually read what it was like to be with someone with that illness. And i would say that just because she immediately started dating another person is not necessarily proof of BPD-ness, it definitely could be. Were there other things? Troubled relationships with parent/friends/coworkers? Suicide ideation? From i love to i hate you within moments of each other?


Title: Re: i really do believe my ex has BPD now.
Post by: TonettaTheGreat on December 17, 2017, 12:55:48 PM
Child abuse, cheated, lied, Ignored me etc etc.
I called her names, etc which I do regret, but she held it against me for the whole relationship.


Title: Re: i really do believe my ex has BPD now.
Post by: SlyQQ on December 17, 2017, 08:16:14 PM
You might have to batten down the hatches Tonetta, you are likely in for a few shocks and i urge caution, you  might also find yourself rephrasing this statement to offically dating,

I repeat be careful if threatened people with BPD can lash out in dangerous ways.


Title: Re: i really do believe my ex has BPD now.
Post by: TurbanCowboy on December 17, 2017, 10:11:16 PM
She began dating my replacement 2 DAYS after we split up. Ha. My god.

Is this normal?

10 year relationship, 6 year marriage, moved to a new state after she received a promotion in March, told me she wasn't "in love" with me in July, bad argument in August, asked for divorce in August, caught her with another man in October, charmed me in October, I finally moved out Thanksgiving  weekend, she went on vacation with the guy I caught her with the week after Thanksgiving, she was away this past week on business and I'm pretty sure he was with her since they work for the government and he can work remotely, my wife is going away all Christmas week and isn't coming back till New Year's Day and I'm pretty sure he'll be with her.  She wants to sell our home in January and lose a ton of money in the process so she can move closer to him.  The guy has been divorced twice in the last 6 years. We have a 4 year old boy.

My wife couldn't give a damn about anything in this world but her.