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I plan on asking my L this question but wanted to throw it out to my bpdfamily first. Today, my ex contacted a friend of mine via FB Messenger. My ex knows of this friend of mine but has never met her (my friend). This friend of mine is listed as a potential witness in my divorce case. Ex began sending messages to my friend saying some pretty negative things about me in which most were false. The ones that are true, my friend already knew about. Ex said that I was a narcissist and a couple of things that I am supposedly doing to her in the divorce process. There was more but you get the point. Ex asked my friend to meet her Tuesday evening to talk. My friend asked me what I thought and I said that it was up to her and that I'll be her friend just the same either way.

My question is does this constitute witness tampering or is there anything illegal about it? I don't have intentions of having my ex locked up but wondering if it is one more toe that she is about to shoot off of her foot.

Thanks in advance for the advice!

As a side note, when my ex sent my friend that I went around attacking ex's character and bad mouthing, my friend sent a message telling ex that I had never bashed ex while she was around. Because I never did. Ex goes on to tell my friend that she hasn't said anything bad about me either... .as she had just finished bashing me in messages to that same friend?

Tell your attorney about this., immediately.

Thanks flourdust. I sent my L an email this morning. My L asked if my friend intended to meet with my ex on Tuesday. I told my L that my friend wasn't sure. If I asked my friend not to, then she probably wouldn't. I'll post an update soon.

An issue is that disordered people, especially the acting-out ones, are typically very experienced in distracting others from the truth, making emotionally persuasive but unsubstantiated claims and confusing so many people.  They're accomplished manipulators, guilters and more.  You could forewarn her about that, to be alert to subtle attempts to malign you but it would probably be best that, how to say this, she should consider replying, "Maybe we could meet, I really don't know why if we've never met before, but in any case I'd prefer any meeting be after the divorce is final."

My friend told my ex that she didn't think that it is a good idea to meet. My ex isn't happy with my friend.