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Title: Inpatient therapy
Post by: Ohmom on December 20, 2017, 10:07:13 PM
Hi,

I am new here. I have a child who is struggling with hypersensitivity and depression. After reading and viewing some of the videos and articles, I wonder what is the best way to help my adult child? He is seems to be on the brink of a crisis almost daily now.

I think an assessment would help, but I wonder if inpatient therapy would bring him some immediate respite. Thanks for your help.


Title: Re: Inpatient therapy
Post by: wendydarling on December 20, 2017, 11:37:23 PM
Hi Ohmom

Welcome to bpdfamily   

I'm sorry your son is regularly on the brink of a crisis and glad you've reached out for support, parents here understand, you are not alone.   How do his crises present themselves? You are right an assessment will help, will this be his first, is he willing to seek a diagnosis and recommended treatment? That may include a recommendation of inpatient therapy, though I've no personal experience of in patient therapy I would expect any respite comes with engaging in therapy and getting any medication right.

WDx



Title: Re: Inpatient therapy
Post by: Almost Lisa on December 22, 2017, 07:39:32 PM
I am not a professional, but as a parent of a child who has become a regular in the inpatient system, my opinion would to use that avenue as little as possible.  Our daughter has become a regular and hospitalized more times than I can count.  At least once a month she decides that she is going to kill herself, gets someone to take her to the ER or psych unit (we won't do it anymore), and then gets a few days to a week of attention, meals she doesn't have to fix, and people who pay attention to her.  She has also learned how to present herself so that she gets admitted every time, knows how to talk the talk, and get people to try to fill her bottomless need for attention.  She has learned things from the other people like ways to harm yourself. We've had her in treatment since she was 13.  My husband and I have even been blamed by many of the psychologists for her problems despite the fact that we have a loving home and have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to try to get her help.  

Inpatient therapy does have its place.  If there is a crisis and you have no other professional help, sometimes it is your only choice.  Sometimes it is worth it to set your child onto medication that works and resources that will help you. But just realize it comes with its own problems.