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I have an ex (3 months apart) who has just started texting me again.  I’m using restraint in my response... .just being kind.  This is our first long separation (her doing) and I’m not sure what to expect. 

She has never ever apologized for the terrible things she has said to me over the course of our r/s.  Never.  Is it foolish for me to even expect that at this point?  If she would show some remorse, I would feel so much better about her.

I’m not sure why she is texting me (lots of love stuff but I’m not reacting to those) but then she says she can’t be with me because I “evaporate” her, whatever  that means.

The good news for me is she told me she will be gone the month of January.  So the temptation to go to her house will be taken from me.  So far I’ve been holding firm in not initiating contact or seeing her in person.

She does love me... .she has never taken that back but she says she becomes to obssessed with me.  I love her, too, but since this breakup it’s gotten easier to be without her, although I would go back, silly as that sounds.

Am I crazy or is this just part of the Merry-go-round of BPD relationships?

Do you want to restart the relationship?

What are your biggest concerns if you start over again?

During your time apart what have you done to begin working on yourself so that some of the previous issues can be dealt with?

Hey stixx44, I echo Tattered Heart: are you interested in a recycle, if the opportunity should present itself?  If so, what makes you think things will play out differently next time?  It sounds like you may have had prior separations, of shorter duration?  Many of us here, including me, have been through recycles, often several times, so feel free to ask any particular questions you might have.

LuckyJim