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Title: Love and want to stay but its so hard... Post by: Tatdmom33 on January 02, 2018, 02:09:07 PM Hello,
I found this site through the book stop walking on eggshells which I am currently reading. My boyfriend is a BP and it has been extremely difficult but this book has helped me understand what is wrong. He wont admit anything is wrong with him of course and it has been rocky to say the least but I love him more than anything and want it to work for us, just need support I guess... . Hopeful but it hurts Title: Re: Love and want to stay but its so hard... Post by: ArleighBurke on January 02, 2018, 05:47:57 PM Welcome! There are a lot of people here who can help.
Tell us more about your situation: your age, how long have you been together, is he professionally diagnosed, is he in therapy, what bahaviours of his do you see that affect you the most? Title: Re: Love and want to stay but its so hard... Post by: an0ught on January 03, 2018, 06:33:42 AM Welcome Tatdmom33,
I love him more than anything and want it to work for us, just need support I guess... . constantly watching yourself and walking on eggshells is exhausting . What is he doing that is upsetting you the most? Where do you struggle? Sharing problems by writing them out helps a lot already. There is actually more on this site that goes way beyond sharing and talking. If you take a look at the LESSONs there are workshops on skill building. Dealing with a persons suffering from BPD often requires to behave in certain ways - healthy ways that are to some of us initially not natural or ways we have unlearned in the course of the tumultuous relationship and have to relearn. By reflecting on our behavior and getting feedback from others we can improve a lot our coping and communication ability. Hopeful but it hurts In any case a good way to get started is sharing a little more and engaging with situations you can relate to that others are dealing with. *welcome*, a0 |