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I am going through a divorce from a man who I finally realized was narcissistic and verbally abusive to me for years. It is my second marriage, and I did not want to fail again. I am an enabler and I forgave him for years. I moved out in September of 2017, first to my daughter’s home, and then to my own apartment close to her. I moved about 2 hours away from my soon to be ex husband. He continues to bully me, and is making the divorce very difficult.
I just want to be done, and move on to a life without living on eggshells.
I am angry at myself for putting up his anger and trying to please him.

 
Welcome, though of course we wish you didn't have reason to seek our peer support.  Good for you that we've "been there, done that".  Take advantage of our collective hard-won wisdom. |iiii

The domestic courts are there to monitor to a greater or lesser extent the unwinding of a marriage.  So your spouse can delay a divorce, posturing to get as much out of it as he can or cause you as much pain as he can, but he can't stop it.  In time you will get your final decree.  So there really is light at the end of the tunnel.

Since there are evidently no children together, custody and parenting aren't issues, right?  So it's limited to less emotional matters of assets, debts and potential support.  What delays are he causing?  Are there jointly owned assets (house, vehicles, etc) or accounts (retirement accounts, bank accounts, credit cards, loans, mortgages, liens, etc)?

How long was the marriage?  Did he earn less than you and he is seeking spousal support or alimony?  Generally if it wasn't a long term marriage then there isn't a lot of post-marital support.

Once you chart out what the issues and items are and ways to address them as quickly as possible, then you'll have a better grip on where you stand and how to keep the case moving along as quickly as possible.  Yes, he can delay but he can't stop it.