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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: Frankee on August 26, 2017, 02:57:41 PM



Title: Issues sound familiar. We just had a fight.
Post by: Frankee on August 26, 2017, 02:57:41 PM
Issues sound familiar.  We just had a fight.  I pointed out that I'm the one that gets up 3 or 4 times a night with our baby and he's the one that gets to go back to sleep.   His reply... No because you all keep me up.  Believe me that steamed my beans... He's not the one changing the diaper, giving him a bottle, or having to rock him back to sleep.  He gets to lay in bed and wait till I can quiet the baby enough.  Then when I fall asleep in the recliner because I'm exhausted, he gets pissed off and says I "go" to sleep, like I do I on purpose do I don't have to sleep in the bed.  Then when I do come back for however long I can... He still claims I don't sleep in the bed.  Tempted to knee him in the back so he's aware I'm back in bed instead of trying to keep quiet so I don't wake him.

Then even when I've been up since 7am, he'll get mad if I'm sleep when he comes home at 1am.  He makes me feel guilty for being tired or exhausted.  I even sleep on the couch to wait for him, but if I don't wake up, he stews about it and then gets mad later.

I'm sleep deprived and the one time I say anything about waking up 3 or more times, I'm complaining and shouldn't be since apparently all I do at my job is sit on my ass and answer a phone.  Our work schedules don't coincide and neither does our babies sleep schedule.  I find myself sleeping for an hour here or there by the time he decides to go to sleep.  It sucks.