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This will be the 4th time i've been through this... .the agonizing decision. If i want her back, i'm going to have to be patient , let her finish her betrayal of me , hope she doesnt fall in love with someone else... .and then IF SHE DOES  call... act like nothing bothering me and be a rock for her , even though i want to tell her exactly what i thing of all these stupid headgames... this may take months ... in the meatnimt e.if i start dating, i might forget about her... i might find some eone new... .maybe she already has... .she has neve admitting seeing someone else, but never denied it either... always saying ":" none of your business "... that SO IRRITATING... .

in other words... wait and be a doormat hoping that when someone else dissaponjts her she will come back to me... .how humiliating... .

Realistically, here my problem. I LOVE HER I WANT TO BE WITH HER AND TAKE CARE OF HER... .BUT SHE HAS TREATED ME SOOBADLY, THAT I CANT TAKE HER BACK EVVEN IF SHE BEGS, BECAUSE SHE HAS HAD ABSOLUTELY NO RESPECT FOR ME EVER... .SO WHY WOULD I WANT TO EVEN DO THAT... .I WOULD BE THEER FOR HER... .BUT SHE HAS BEEN SOO BAD ... I WOULD BE A FOOL FOR EVEN TRYING... .and if i really resovle to just dissapear on her, i've materialized her worst fear... .and I'M 100% SURE ... that if i do date and really have gotten past her, thats exacatly when she will turn up again.

adice... .i've been posted on " after breakup " page... now im second guessing. help... .im in a no win situation... .let her come back at her pace ... i lose she doesnt respect me... .dissapear on her forever.i lose because shes is gone... is ther a potential win here ?

and it would break my heart to have to put her in the " some girl i used to f---- catagory... .becaue thats just not at all what i wanted... .but i have to admit... i think thats what all the other guys treat her... and thats just sad.

7 year slong time ... maybe i thought i had turned a sl---t into a faithful women and am just plain wrong ... and stupid.

Honestly d you hae a lot in common with my first (  ) replacement,

he was a broken man after 6 months he rang me in desperation about then after earlier threatening to kill me ( no reflection on you here d ), the mediator who was negotiating

some family issues between me an my ex also handled thier NC breakup, he said that the bloke told him

"thank god i escaped"

so my advice run.

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Hi dumpster dog,

I see you are in a lot of turmoil... .Can we talk about you for a bit? Are there personal changes you are interested in making since she is going to do whatever she does with her life?

What do you want for your life big picture? :)

compassionately, pearl.

Your experience has been very similar to mine.  I'm sorry you're going through this.

Hi dumpsterdog, it sounds like a tough situation you are in.  What can you tell us in response to pearlsw's questions?

WW