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Title: Mom with BPD Post by: gvw on February 08, 2018, 04:47:54 PM I was wondering what everyone's thoughts are when it comes to putting boundaries in place or expressing disappointment and hurt with a BPD Mom. Many times, the reaction to any form of criticism creates so much more chaos and dysfunction. Is it worthwhile, or even important to say anything when a boundary is clearly crossed or just ignore and not react?
Title: Re: Mom with BPD Post by: RolandOfEld on February 08, 2018, 06:45:35 PM Hi gvw, welcome!
In terms of your mom, are you living together, or if not, close by? How often do you see each other? Is she diagnosed? I didn't realize my mother had BPD or BPD traits until ten years after she had passed when I discovered my wife's BPD and connected the dots. Could I go back now with the knowledge I have, I would have done things a lot differently. Could you share some examples of boundaries you feel are being transgressed? Here you will find a lot of stories from people with common problems. I suggest you read and join in some related threads to gain some context for your situation and learn from other's experience. ROE Title: Re: Mom with BPD Post by: Turkish on February 08, 2018, 09:52:01 PM Hi gvw,
I'd like to join RolandOfEld in welcoming you here! What kinds of boundaries is your mom crossing? We have some discussions which may help. Let us know what you think: 1.08 | Boundaries - examples (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=167368.0;all) I like the particular discussion above since it makes me think about my own values and my limits. T |