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I just made the biggest decision since the break-up to delete my ex from access to my fb account.
After chatting with her friend and being vulnerable about us not getting to double date with them anymore because we are not together.  The woman posted pics on facebook the next day of my ex with her new boyfriend as if to rub it in and let me know that she is with someone (i already knew).

People are so cruel. And i'm so naive thinking that people will be nice like me. 

That's it. I'm done.  NO MORE ACCESS TO MY LIFE! She wanted me gone; now she has it for good.  She abandoned me after i was there during all of her low times. She used me and spit me out.   And after all of it I still was hoping to be friends. But i can't be friends when she paints me black to her clan and then they hurt me indirectly by posting pics of her and her new bf after i reach out in good faith as a friend.

I'm sure her siblings will delete me once they get wind and I have yet to delete them but i know once she finds out that she can't check my page anymore she'll paint me even further black with them.

I don't think i'll have to worry about her contacting me like i see so many others post because i'm not close enough for her to use me so because i'm not useful she'll find someone else. 

Well that's it.  I've mourned over this woman for the past 6 months but NO MORE.  I will always remember the woman i met before she got off meds and turned BPD/narc/bi-polar or whatever.  But i don't know her anymore so i can't stay friends with someone poisons their friends against me.   That was all the confirmation i needed.   My fantasy of her just telling them we ended because i moved out of town is over.  Now based on what happened i can assume it was a much different story.

Why do the unhealthy and negative people have all the power? 

Well this is my last bit of power that i have by deleting her. 
thanks for listening

That's a good question, I've had similar feelings I think that it has to do with where we are, you'll probably feel differently when things are not as emotionally raw for you. I depends on what one's definition of power is my definition of power over my exuBPD is having self control through her outlandish things because having control over yourself is not something that someone else can take from you regardless of how much they distort reality. Do they have the power or do they act this way because they're not comfortable with their feelings?

They have the power to alter peoples views about the person they are targeting.  That seems like power to me.  Power to influence people through lies.  Someone told me recently, "it's easier to believe a lie then to believe your being lied to."  So true.  We want to believe people at face value.  That's why PD people are so dangerous to those that they target. 

My kids believe everything their mom tells them.  Why from her over me?  I don't know. I guess Mom's have more power with kids?

As the kids mature they will make up their own minds about things.  That's when your consistency and care will be evident to them and they will know they can rely on you to be a stable influence in their lives.  Just keep being the best you for them and in time they will recognise what you do. 

Congratulations on putting this boundary on yourself to protect you and keep influences out that are damaging for your well being.  |iiii

Love and light x