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Title: How many of you were in business w/ or worked w/BPDex? Post by: lighthouse9 on March 14, 2018, 06:33:49 PM I'm curious - was anyone else in business with their ex (or even current partner)?
I had a personal training side business when we met and she eventually joined the business. I was thinking about this, because I just deleted her from our business webpage and had to edit it to be just my business again. I was excited to bring her on board and she had so much expertise to offer, but it was like anything else: me dreaming long-term, her getting bored of it and walking away (even leaving a client in the lurch). I saw some other folks posting about working with their partners or their exes. What were your challenges? Title: Re: How many of you were in business w/ or worked w/BPDex? Post by: Secondhand ploy on March 31, 2018, 04:41:47 AM I was.
I was in the same company with me ex after we broke up. She name called me when alone and yelled at me. She act very loving with others. She act nice to me when others are around. She blamed me publicly if she messed up or did something incorrect. I never shared a business with her though. Let me know if you want to know anything specific. Title: Re: How many of you were in business w/ or worked w/BPDex? Post by: grd123 on March 31, 2018, 09:03:38 AM Hi Lighthouse 9 my ex wife was employed by me and I terminated her employment after we separated. I had businesses before the marriage and hired her to work for me after the marriage. We were married 22 years and right after the separation I terminated her on advice of lawyers , fellow business people and the labour board. I did keep paying her until we had a separation agreement but have been no contact for approximately 3.5 years. Last month my lawyer sent her a cease and desist order to never contact me other than through lawyers due to the history of verbal, emotional and physical abuse after she tried to contact me by e-mail.
I can empathize with Secondhand ploy as what he stated is a carbon copy of my experiences with my ex wife. My wife was never a shareholder in the business even though she pressured me many times to allow this but I usually just let the idea pass and thankfully so. Title: Re: How many of you were in business w/ or worked w/BPDex? Post by: toomanydogs on March 31, 2018, 10:41:20 AM Fascinating thread for a couple reasons.
I met my STBX because I was working online as an editor (I write & edit), and he had a screenplay he wanted edited. After I returned the screenplay, he contacted me and asked if I'd ghost write for him. Turned him down. He started flirting. One thing led to another and voila. Eleven years later... .I'm in the process of divorcing the A**hole. However, during this time I've been rereading the emails we sent one another as he's now claiming we never consummated our marriage. (Can words ever describe how much I hate this man? Nope. And I make my living writing.) Anyway, going back over these emails, which were highly erotic and would support my claim that the marriage was indeed consummated. Not my fault that he didn't treat his diabetes and ended up impotent as a result of a glucose level of 600. Not my fault that he liked scatological porn (think 2 Girls and a Cup), which totally repulses me. Anyway, I digress. Going through those emails, it's also apparent to me--now (wish it happened 11 years ago)--that his primary reason to be with me was so I could write and edit for him. He can't write because he can't sequence. When I was in love with him, I was happy to help provided he gave me the appropriate credit. Well, wouldn't you know? He has taken sole credit for the two short films we did together, and he never gave me credit for the one book I helped him write. I'm okay about the book because he tore what I wrote apart, in an attempt to be "artistic," so he included footnotes that tied back to nothing, outlines that I'd provided so he could finish the damn thing.Then he declared the book "genius." It's totally incoherent. I'm sorry. I'm feeling really bitter this morning. I have $11 to buy a ham and asparagus, so I can have family over for Easter. In the meantime, my STBX has been to: Chicago, Seattle, Pittsburgh, Tucson. With the exception of Pittsburgh, these were all places I begged him--friggin' begged him--to go with me. And now instead--boo hoo hoo--he's maintaining I never consummated the marriage, so he should not have to give me alimony. It's Easter. I'm Catholic. Easter is about rebirth, resurrection, forgiveness for those who are nearly unforgivable. And I'm still lost in hatred and anger. I apologize, TMD |