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Title: My BPD girlfriend wont talk to me. Post by: Totkhuma on March 16, 2018, 10:32:37 PM Hey guys,
So its been a few days since we had a little argument. It wasnt a bad fight of any sort but she got really angry. What happened was that my actions reminded her of the things she wouod rather forget. I know thats a big sin for a BPD but it was never intentional. Since then she has barely been talking,replies late to my texts when she does leaves with one word which mostly has no meaning. Been a few days like that. I wanted to know what should i do when she does reply like talk to her like nothings wrong, make her talk bout the problems or go in wagging my tail trynna get her back. Also she dropped out of therapy saying it did good and anti deppressants made it worse for her making her feel numb. What are ur thoughts on that is she valid to say that or just a false thought. And any idea how to convince her to go back to therapy.(dropped out a few months ago) Info:been with her for over a year and half now. She really made progress with herself. She has always been supportive and caring, had her swing but this feels different. Hope to hear back soon. Title: Re: My BPD girlfriend wont talk to me. Post by: Turkish on March 16, 2018, 11:03:05 PM Hi Totkhuma,
*welcome* I get the resistance to meds. My BPD mother had issues with them, and my uBPDx refused to take them, despite her T encouraging it. I'd back away from pushing her back into therapy for now. A core feeling of pwBPD is shame: "I'm worthless and no one can love me." I'd focus on the incident and try to validate. We have a lot of tools here which can help like: https://bpdfamily.com/content/ending-conflict SET is the most basic tool which we can learn. And to expand upon that: 1.12 | Validation - examples] What was the argument about? T (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=124001.0;all) Title: Re: My BPD girlfriend wont talk to me. Post by: Tattered Heart on March 20, 2018, 02:22:50 PM Any updates? Have you heard from your gf?
Title: Re: My BPD girlfriend wont talk to me. Post by: Mutt on March 21, 2018, 09:26:48 AM Hi Totkhuma,
*welcome* I’d like to join the others and welcome you to bpdfamily. How long was she taking the meds it takes a 6 to 8 weeks to feel the full effects of anti depressants. It took me about 6 weeks. I just wanted to say that r/s schools are good to practice even in the good times. I hope to read more of your posts *) |